{"id":1555,"date":"2016-09-02T00:10:16","date_gmt":"2016-09-02T00:10:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/?p=1555"},"modified":"2016-09-02T00:24:13","modified_gmt":"2016-09-02T00:24:13","slug":"what-do-you-call-a-legal-prostitute","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/what-do-you-call-a-legal-prostitute\/","title":{"rendered":"What Do You Call A Legal Prostitute?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Often new clients come in feeling a little awkward, not certain how they\u2019re supposed to conduct themselves around women in my career. It\u2019s understandable considering how much myth and stigma is built up around sex work. It\u2019s difficult to know what to call the lady you\u2019re about to see, when society has given us a wide range of different terms, with no real differentiation between each one. Please keep this sex work lexicon in mind when having conversations with your lady of choice, as each word has its own unique connotation and meaning. Some terminology is widely acceptable, where as other terms are generally frowned upon. Others still have contested history, and a variety of different opinions when it comes to if and how that term should be used.<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the most important things to remember is that we are professionals at work. We want to build a relationship with you and be your friend, but we deserve and expect a basic level of respect as working women. Despite what modern pornography might have taught you, most women don\u2019t appreciate being insulted or degraded. Some do! Bring up dirty talk during the negotiation if it\u2019s something you\u2019re in to. But in general most people don\u2019t appreciate being called “bitches,” “sluts” or the unfortunately ubiquitous “whore.” We are not whores. Neither are we “street walkers,” “hookers,” or “cunts.” We are “professional courtesans” and “legal sex workers.” These terms are broadly acceptable. Any others should be discussed on a personal basis.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

LEGAL SEX WORKER: <\/b><\/span>Generally accepted term, very okay to use.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

COURTESAN:<\/b><\/span> Generally accepted term, complimentary to use, as it speaks to the level of skill and professionalism that the lady has.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

BITCH\/SLUT\/WHORE:<\/b><\/span> Generally discouraged, if you wish to use such phrases, talk to each lady individually as to their thoughts and feelings.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

You may say these things lightly, thinking it\u2019s a joke, or that we should be used to it (or worse, deserve it) since we\u2019ve chosen this career field. All those little joking insults build up. Imagine you went to work every day, doing your very best, giving your all at a very physically and emotionally draining task, and every person you met cheerfully insulted you directly to your face, and then continued to expect you to serve them with a smile. Imagine working behind the counter at a fast food restaurant and getting a \u201cThanks cunt!\u201d every time you handed someone their fries. Doesn\u2019t that sound exhausting?\u00a0 We want our experience together to be one that is filled with mutually positive memories- by using correct language, you\u2019re going to find it much easer to connect with the lady, and have a pleasurable encounter with her.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being your courtesan (especially during something like GFE<\/a>) works best when there\u2019s a genuine connection between us. I want to like my clients, and I love to discover each person\u2019s best traits. I want them to like me too! But offensive language, especially when you lead with it before we even reach negotiations, can put up an immediate barrier that makes it difficult to connect. You\u2019d have trouble building a relationship with someone who insulted you the first time they met you too. I refer to the individuals I see as Clients and Friends- I strive to respect you, because i value the time we spend together. In return, I ask that you please value and respect me by using terms that I am comfortable with.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s talk about the word \u201cProstitute.\u201d it\u2019s one that has a rich history, and a wide variety of different connotations. What image comes to mind when you hear the word Prostitute? While it isn\u2019t an automatically bad term, it is one that can carry a lot of weight to it. Personally, I prefer the term Courtesan, or legal luxury companion. Each lady has different feelings about the word prostitute- so please do have that conversation about her thoughts and feelings on the word. Sure conversations are a wonderful way to get to know the lady you are interested in, and discover more about her!\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

PROSTITUTE: <\/b><\/span>Contested word with a variety of both positive and negative connotations. Please have a conversation with your lady of choice regarding to this word.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Treat your courtesans with respect. Remember that we\u2019re people, experts in our field, doing our very best every day at a job that we really love.\u00a0 Use respectful language. Again, courtesan and sex worker are generally acceptable, but you should always feel free to ask your courtesan what they are comfortable with.\u00a0 Always try to live with empathy, thinking about how your actions – and words – affect others and imagine how it would feel to be in their shoes. And don\u2019t worry if you\u2019re unsure or don\u2019t know what to do. That\u2019s normal, and we\u2019re able and very willing to help. There\u2019s no such thing as a stupid question with us. The more both of us are on the same page, the better a time we\u2019re going to have.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Often new clients come in feeling a little awkward, not certain how they\u2019re supposed to conduct themselves around women in my career. It\u2019s understandable considering how much myth and stigma is built up around sex work. It\u2019s difficult to know what to call the lady you\u2019re about to see, when society has given us a … Continue reading “What Do You Call A Legal Prostitute?”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1555","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-featured"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1555","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1555"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1555\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1567,"href":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1555\/revisions\/1567"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1555"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1555"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bunnyranch.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1555"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}