Take Charge. We do not want to decide where to go. We will never tell you this, but it is true. Ask us what kind of place and/or food we like; then, pick a place like that. Do not leave it up to us to choose. You are the man. Act like one.

Smile. When we arrive, smile. Maybe you are a tough guy. Maybe you are nervous. Maybe you are paralyzed. Either way, smile. Women are strange, exotic, intuitive creatures, and we respond well to positive reinforcement. Do not glower.

Mind Your Body Language. If your legs are crossed and your hand is over your mouth, we will unconsciously think you are hiding something. If you are sprawled out all over with your legs spread wide and your hands behind your head, we will think you are a slob or generally loose. Sit up straight, lean in closer, and keep your hands where we can see them.

Ask Questions. This seems obvious, but it’s surprising how many men don’t do this. You know what women like? Attention. Also, kittens, flowers, and cupcakes. Nothing else. If you seem curious about the woman sitting across from you, she will like it. For sure.

Listen. You can’t just ask a bunch of questions, and then not listen to the answers. They call this a “date,” but, really, for women, it’s more like a “test.” If you emailed or talked on the phone beforehand, remember what the hell she told you about herself. If you forget, we will feel angry and want to leave. Then you will be sorry.

Use Flattery, Appropriately. If at some point during our meeting, you tell us we are “beautiful,” “attractive,” or “pretty,” we will like you better than if you didn’t. It’s. Just. That. Simple.

Act Right, Boy. We really do not care if you are secretly neurotic, deeply insecure, or mildly nuts. We are interested in how you portray yourself. Act confident, interested, engaged, self-assured, ambitious, and happy. We like that. Thanks.

No Pawing Allowed. If you’re going to score, we will let you know. Trust. Occasional physical contact is good—a hand to the small of the back, a touch of the thigh, a brief holding of the arm while making a point. Do not grab anywhere in the red light zones. If we want your hands there, we will put them there.

Pay. Feminism, shmeminism. Take care of the bill without comment. That is what we want. Wave off any offer to go dutch. We lied. We don’t want to pay half.

Say Goodnight. Don’t meander off into the night. Do something. What that is is up to you: a handshake, a hug, a kiss. Do it right? You might get lucky.

Fu#king on the first date isn't allowed Damnnnnnn it !!


Chili

Here at the bunny ranch your chances are extremely good We wanna fuck on the first date and one after, and the next, next, next

Thanks, have read it and now will put into practise.

Great Advice Tamela Huuugs

Mostly common sense...but think of it as a a refresher course

all common sense!! how am i still single? lol

You got it!

Thats what u have us for!!

The 10 Commandments Of Dating (For Guys)

When it comes to dating, there are some rules that should not ever be broken. Here are 10 dating commandments—for men!—that should be etched in stone. (Don’t worry—I'll do 10 for women too ... eventually.)

Commandment #1: Thou shalt not be late or cancel more than once.
If you can’t help but be late, send a text message or call as soon as possible to alert your date of your failure to be prompt. And if you must cancel—like, say, if you have mono or Freddie Mercury comes back from the dead for a one-night only concert to which you have a ticket (in which case, invite me)—reschedule immediately. To quote myself, rainchecks are bulls**t.

Commandment #2: Thou shalt not itemize the bill.
If you’re set on being a modern man who prefers to go dutch, so be it—we most of us are cool with that—but divide it straight down the middle. Those who itemize based on who ate what—especially if that means they owe less—should be deeply ashamed. And also castrated.

Commandment #3: Thou shalt not expect sex in exchange for paying the bill.
If you’re more traditional and opt to pay the full bill, do not expect your generosity to buy you any sexual favors. Seriously, not even a kiss. Besides, kisses/blowjobs/sex feel so much better when they’re given with natural enthusiasm, not because $50 was forked over for a mediocre piece of salmon and some stupidly named cocktails.

Commandment #4: Thou shalt not get completely wasted.
Drinks can (and perhaps should!) be imbibed on a date, but watch the intake and avoid shots, unless you are in college and there’s a special on tequila and cans of Tecate. Loosen up with a couple beers or a glass of wine or two, but nursing rather than guzzling will ensure you keep your embarrassing alter ego, Senor Drunky McStumble-Puke, safely at bay.

Commandment #5: Thou shalt not talk incessantly about your ex-girlfriend.
Doesn’t matter whether you’re calling her a complete bunny boiler or singing her praises—it’s weird. It’s one thing, if it comes up, to talk about when you last were in a serious relationship or how many years/months the longest one lasted. It is another thing, however, to share the entire Wuthering Heights-esque saga of your love story, starting with when you first laid eyes on her and ending with the day she went completely mental and poured sugar in your gas tank because she found out you cheated. Relive the memories with your man journal or therapist. Or, on second thought, move on already.

Commandment #6: Thou shalt not name drop your Ivy League university more than once.
Nor the model of sports car you drive or the high-end brand of watch strapped around your wrist. We don’t care that when you graduated from Princeton—also Princeton grads, natch—or that your parents gifted you with a vintage Rolex, which was pretty cool, but not nearly as cool as the Porsche they gave you when you graduated from Harvard Law. We care much more that your fancy education bought you something interesting to say.

Commandment #7: Thou shalt not be rude to waiters, cab drivers, or other service people deserving of mutual respect.
Angrily sending your plate back to the kitchen because your steak is cherry blossom pink instead of Thulian pink makes you look like a pretentious douche. Giving the cab driver a crappy tip because there was traffic makes us want to go home with him instead. We’d much rather date someone who is chill and relaxed when things don’t work out completely to their specifications rather than an adult baby who throws epic tantrums.

Commandment #8: Thou shalt not discuss money.
Super broke? Just got a fat raise? About to come into a six figure inheritance? Parents worth $20 million? Need to get a roommate because money’s super tight right now? All of the above needs to be kept to yourself. Couples talk about money. We’re not a couple yet.

Commandment #9: Thou shalt not be dismissive of her opinions.
One of the best perks about dating is getting to learn another person’s perspective—on the world, on politics, on pop culture, whatever. Make the most of that. Listen! Nodding your head and holding back an eye roll while she explains her beliefs on universal health care, only to seize the spotlight the minute she pauses in order to say, “Yeah, well, maybe you should just move to France,” is not listening. It’s dick.

Commandment #10: Thou shalt not refuse to wear a condom.
Ohhhh, condoms make your penis feel like it’s being strangled. You don’t have any diseases, you swear. You basically got, like, a master’s degree in the pullout method, huh? You’ve never gotten a chick pregnant! Congrats. Strap one on anyway, homie.

Hee hee

Great guide Tamela! Kisses! See you soon

These are some great rules. Kind of common sense and I know them. Of course my problem tends to be meeting girls to take out.

I'm just too nice a guy I guess.

I know of a few girls you can take out

Well there are plenty there at the Ranches I know. What I'm really hoping for is some outside that world. Don't get me wrong I really enjoy the world and fun I have when I am there. Well I think you know what I mean.

One day I will have to take you and Jayla out. Perhaps when I win the lottery one day. Hopefully sooner.

Feel free to add some your own rules

What ever happened to opening doors for the ladies. Car doors, doors to buildings so on. Why not be a gentleman?

We would love to go out for a bit

This is in my rules of dating. I will stand there and wait for you to open the car door and building doors for me. Call me a brat, but I AM A LADY!

These are all very true, very smart post tamela!

Feels almost like Deja'Vu

Thanks Barb..see you soon sexy!!!

Ok note to self ...leave my pants on under the table..

and don't do the boobie grab on the dance floor

Well the boobie grab I will allow

maxwell Smart (voice) So the old boobie grab on the dance floor

still works (LOL)

I would love to take you out one night and treat you like a lady.

It's not being a brat. All women deserve to be treated like a lady.

Rules for GFE Dating at the MLBR / TLR:

Treat a lady with respect, act like a gentlemen, and negotiate fairly (win-win situation for both) and you are almost certain to get very lucky on your first date. Subsequent dates can be even more fun as you become better acquainted.

NOTE: You do not need to worry about age appropriate dating. You can make selections from a wide variety of "hot" ladies. You can live on your "wild side" for the duration of your date. You will have some of the best times of your life.

For some reason this reminded me of the line from Yes Man
"I'm gonna take her to a ball. Every pretty girl deserves to go to a ball!"

But really, every lady deserves at least a little special treatment on dates. Moreso if they're actually willing to go on one with me

Also, great lists Tamela, lots of humor and still a good SparkNotes for successful dates

YES..thank you so much for adding that

[quote="Harold"]

Rules for GFE Dating at the MLBR / TLR:

Treat a lady with respect, act like a gentlemen, and negotiate fairly (win-win situation for both) and you are almost certain to get very lucky on your first date. Subsequent dates can be even more fun as you become better acquainted.

NOTE: You do not need to worry about age appropriate dating. You can make selections from a wide variety of "hot" ladies. You can live on your "wild side" for the duration of your date. You will have some of the best times of your life.[/quote]

Great advice, Tamela!

I love that movie

Or dont wear white lol

I'll go on a date with you


For some reason this reminded me of the line from Yes Man
"I'm gonna take her to a ball. Every pretty girl deserves to go to a ball!"

But really, every lady deserves at least a little special treatment on dates. Moreso if they're actually willing to go on one with me

Also, great lists Tamela, lots of humor and still a good SparkNotes for successful dates[/quote]

Thanks BL!!!

Great thread Tamela!!!

Can I add good hygeine to the list too!! lol!

Of course

Great tips!! Boys take notes! I really would like to make a million copies of this and just post it everywhere!!!

Those are great rules to follow Tamela.

Always Willing,
Veronica

ha ha!!

The 10 New Relationship Commandments by Dater X

1.Thou shalt not take thy boyfriend for granted. Six weeks into this relationship and it already feels so comfortable—as if it’s something it’s always been. Because our “firsts” are coming to an end, it’s easy to expect the “I love yous” and back rubs and awesome dates. But I want to remember to take note of these things and not just let them roll over me without notice. I want to always pay attention to the way The Young One’s touch makes me tingle and to really hear the assorted sweet things he says to me in a given day. Even if we are lying on the couch watching TV, I want to remember how good it feels to have him there. I want to remember how hard it was to find that connection, and how much I felt like something was missing when I was on the green zebra hunt. I want to appreciate the heck out of him, and out of what we have. I don’t ever want to let this relationship be just another day at the office.

2.Thou shalt not take getting laid for granted. I’ve had more sex in the past two weeks than I have in the past year. I have a feeling that, sometime soon, it’ll slow down—that because I know I can have it almost any time, that I’ll start with the “not tonights” that have gotten women a bad rep in commercials. So I want to remember how badly my single self would have wanted sex on a regular basis with someone who truly cared about them. I hope staying appreciative will keep it coming frequently far after the honeymoon phase has passed.

3.Thou shalt not forget about thy friends. My friends and family members are amazing. They mean the world to me and I will fully admit that in the past few years, while I’ve searched for love and gotten frustrated each and every time I didn’t find it, they’ve been there to help me through it. So I’m a little worried that—given the fact that there are 24 hours in the day and I want to spend many of them with The Young One—I may not be there for them in the same way I was before. So I am hereby pledging to still make time for the people I love—to call them randomly and see how they’re doing, to make dates to do fun things with them, and to show them that I am still the person they can rely on in a crisis.

4.Thou shalt remain a good employee. I can’t tell you how many days in the past six weeks, especially the ones where I wake up in a human pretzel position with The Young One, I wanted to call in sick to work and just hang out with him all day. While I think that’s okay to indulge once in a blue moon, I want to go to work and do it well while I’m there. Hey, my boss doesn’t really care if I’m in love—he still needs his TPS reports.

5.Thou shalt not partake of too many coupled activities. When I was single, I felt a bit uncomfortable about how many of my friends were paired up. I remember feeling like a third wheel when I’d hang out with a friend and his/her significant other. I remember how annoyed I felt when I walked into a dinner party and realized I was the odd one out. Now that I’m with someone, my instinct is often to plan coupled activities—double dates with those pairs I used to hang out with or trivia nights for three or four duos. On one hand, I want to do these things and experience my coupled friends in a new way. But I also want to make this a once-in-a-while thing. Because I want lots of solo time with The Young One. And because I want to host group activities where single friends won’t have to feel awkward.

6.Thou shalt try things his way. Any two human beings approach things—from the way they put toothpaste on their toothbrush to how they like their significant other to act at parties—in hugely different ways. It’s so easy to think that your way is the right. I am actively trying to stop that and broaden my mind in this new relationship. For example, I am the world’s most efficient showerer. I like to get in and out in five minutes flat. So the first time The Young One slid open the shower curtain and hopped in with me, I panicked that my routine was being interrupted. But after a minute or two, I did something crazy—I relaxed. My thoughts went from I’m going to be late to My boyfriend wants fool around in the shower—score! I’m realizing I have to hold less tightly to “my way” to figure out what “our way” is going to be.

7.Thou shalt choose they battles wisely. When you’re dealing with another person, there are bound to be clashes. Some are trivial—see above—while some are big. I know in relationships past, I have gotten on significant other’s cases about trivial things. And quickly, I feel (and am probably perceived) as a nag. In this relationship, I’m going to save the critiques and clashes for things that actually matter to me.

8.Thou shalt express when things aren’t honky dory. I remember early on in my last long-term relationship, when my new boyfriend shared what I considered an intimate detail in front of friends at dinner. They laughed and he obviously didn’t think it was a big deal, but I was livid. As we went home later that night, I kept waiting for an apology. “Are you okay?” the guy asked. “I’m fine,” I said in that way women reflexively do when they are clearly not. How could he not realize that was way out of line? I thought, getting more angry every minute. I don’t want to do that in this relationship. I want to remember that The Young One doesn’t have the benefit of being inside my brain. I want to remember that we are still getting to know each other and that the only way for him to learn what my boundaries are, what hurts my feelings, and what drives me nuts is for me to speak up and tell him.

9.Thou shalt not make out in public too, too much. The problem here is that, oh man, I want to. But I also want to remember that public grope sessions often made me feel uncomfortable when I was single. Not to mention that by not making out in public, we can talk! And get to know each other better! And that’s valuable, too.

10.Thou shalt still look hot. I’m gonna confess to you a ridiculous and yet totally understandable fear: I’m scared of gaining weight now that I’m in a relationship. I’ve seen it happen to many a female friend before me and I know where it comes from—when you’re with someone great, spoon feeding each other chocolate cake sounds far more appealing than going to the gym. I’ve shared with you guys that I was overweight for most of my life and only in the past few years got myself to a healthy size. I love the way I look and feel right now. So I hereby pledge to keep exercising and eating well because I know I will be a better girlfriend if I feel good about myself. I want to be conscious, but not obsessive, about this, even though I know The Young One would still like me even I put on a few.

That’s my list. What things do you guys think it’s important to remember in a new relationship?

These should be taught in schools, lol!

The rules and commandments for guys I've got those down already...
as for the relationship commandments those always need
reviewing and some additions as things change.

Such as thou shalt not text/phone friends constantly when on a "date".
Let's be fair no matter who is doing it, it shows lack of respect and
lack of focus on the one you're with.

Totally Agree

Very true...put the cell phone down!

I say turn the cell phone off. If you aren't the president, what are the odds something is going to happen that can't wai until you are done focusing on your sweetheart.

Ah ha..exactly lol

Small gestures go a long way...
Might be cheesy, corny or a bit comical, but it shows some thought.

cheesy is good ^_^

I love all of the above

Just add wine

Adding wine to the list...

hehehe

Check!!

Nice rules !!!

I'll make sure you "check" me over thoroughly when I arrive.

I will going over every little crack

Only one crack, 3 tattoos, 3 piercings and some freckles....

hee hee

Here are a few signs of flirting that you can use to do some flirting of your own, or use as a guide to see if you are the one being flirted with!

•Eye contact: If it lingers or is made often. One of the less subtle signs of flirting.


•Leaning in towards you; this shows they are interested and are paying attention to what you are saying.


•Mirroring: The way they are sitting or standing is similar to your body position. They are unconsciously imitating what you are doing and developing a rapport with you.


•Touch: While they are talking to you, do they touch you? This is often a sign of interest.


•Feet or legs are pointing towards you is a sign they are enjoying your company and don’t want to be anywhere else at the moment.


•Looking at mouth or chin. Looking back and forth between eyes and lips is usually a signal that they want to be kissed. Women do this more often than men.


•Laughter; even if things aren’t that funny. They want you to see them as a fun person.


•Checking you out (women are less obvious about it, but you may be able to catch them if you pay attention). This is a pretty good sign that they are interested!


•Raising eyebrows; this takes less than a second, and happens when you first meet the person. It is very difficult to spot, although if you do happen to see it, keep in mind that the longer it lasts, the more interest there is.

There are so many other things to take in when you first meet someone, that this proves to be quite tricky!

One more sure sign they are interested...

They lean in and say "f*ck me" and smile.

LOL I know it's tricky and very subtle but it sometimes shows that they like you.

Straight to the point! I love that!!

Good thread and very true, told my brother the same advice and he thought I was crazy (he's ten hears younger and doesn't know any better)

LOL, my bro is 10 years younger than me too.

One day he'll learn

This is all very good advice Tamela. I've only dated one woman in my entire life, so I never really thought about this stuff. It all makes perfect sense!!!

Thank you very much, you are great!

It sometimes makes things more fun and refreshing.

Anytime I am here to help

I have all that down~ Im a good flirt

And if they lean in and say "Fuck You", it's a pretty sure sign that they're not.

I've gotten that quite a bit myself, actually.

Yes u are!!!

Awe..sorry to hear that

Did someone say wine and cheese?

Add some fruit and a blanket and we are good to go for a picnic

Act like a kid again and take your date to the park and fly a kite.

That's good! I like that idea!!!

You know I have never flown a kite! I would love to

I love u BG!!

We'll have to change that for you.

YAY!!! i cant wait!!

5 signs that you’ve met your perfect match

1. You discover quirky things you have in common
It’s one thing to discover you both like the new Coldplay album. It’s another to discover your tastes or habits jibe in more surprising ways. “What confuses people is that they think they’re a match because they have things in common that many people have in common, like favorite books or songs, so they’re fooled into thinking they’re on the same wavelength,” says Sam R. Hamburg, Ph.D., author of Will Our Love Last? “The more uncommon and surprising your similarities are, the better.” That was definitely the case for one Rochester, NY dater named Patrick McAvoy. “I have this weird habit of belting out what I’m doing in song, so when I started dating Bethany, one morning I started singing ‘Here I am, in the shower...’ to the tune of Jesus Christ Superstar,” recalls the 29-year-old. “When she started singing back, making up more words to the same tune, I couldn’t believe it! I knew it would work out.” And it has — for three years so far.

All I can say is

I'll wait to see what the rest of the 5 tips are before I go jumping to conclusions.

Half the fun of dating is getting out of your comfort zone and trying new things and
at the same time you get to get someone else out of their comfort zone
and share something fun with them.

Just sayin'.

looking forward to the other four

2. Neither of you flinch when the future comes up

It’s a new-couple nightmare: One of you blurts out something like, “Ooh, next summer we should go to Greece” — and then freezes, fearing the other person will think, “Next year? We don’t even know if we’ll make it to next month!” But if you and your date don’t bat an eye — or better, smile and agree — you’ve successfully crossed a crucial divide. “It’s a sign that you both feel stable in the relationship,” says Sharyn Wolf, author of So You Want To Get Married: Guerilla Tactics For Turning A Date Into A Mate. So while we don’t suggest making plans with your date for next Christmas, take careful notes on what happens if you do mention some advance planning.