Better sex is as much an art and a skill as a biological function. Improving our sex lifes is one important way of making the rest of our lives more fulfilling.

Surprisingly, even though we are living in a so-called 'liberated society,' sex is still something that a lof of people find difficult to talk about. Consequently, it would be truthful to say that there is still a lot of ignorance about the complexities of this very important part of our lives.




Keys to Improving your Sex Life

Two of the most important keys to a sensational sex life are communication and education. As Judy Bastyra mentions in her excellent book, Ultimate Sex:



Sex is without a doubt one of our strongest appetites. There is a whole menu of exciting dishes to explore. Sometimes you are starving and all you can think about is a quickie. A real hunger that is satisfied fast can be wonderfully pleasing.

At other times you really prefer to take your time and have a feast. You want the anticipation to build as you leisurely choose from the menu and take your fill. You want to be plunged in a private world of pure pleasure. It becomes a whole different experience, slow and meaningful, sensual and exquisite.

And you know what? Your partner craves the same.

Having better sex is about taking responsibility for your own and your partner's pleasure - to walk that delicate tight-rope between give and take. This site will accompany you on a journey of bliss from first date to committed relationship.

Sex really is one of life's greatest delights, so enjoy!

You forgot to mention the best idea for improving your sex life....

Cum to the Bunnyranch!

Of course Kalli.

Sex is like breathing,it's a necessity in life.

Better SEX awaits you at the Bunny Ranch!! Lol how could I forget that??

Communication i by far the biggest thing..tell me what you want, and I will surely tell you as well

awwwwww wish i could take a trip to the bunny ranch its such a nightmare!!

U live really far babe..but I am very confident that one day you will!!!

ino thats the downside of living in england i hope i come and your there x i might win the lottery soon hehe x

I will keep by fingers crosseed and legs spread for you

hehe oooo that might be my lucky charm those crossed fingers and spread legs hehe

We can 'wig' out when u come to carson city lol

hehe aw that would be cool!! i wish i was there now iv been up since 3am ill

Foreplay is a must!

I know you've heard it before over and over again. Even if its only for a few minutes to an hour. Foreplay includes a range of activities such as undressing, kissing, petting and oral sex; but you can add your own thoughts to the list. Sensitive foreplay is so important to good sex because it will help both partners enjoy sexual intercourse more, and it will especially help women reach orgasm more often.

i love how much info you have its truely amazing!

Wahtever I can do to help!! lol

haha!! its very interesting, iv learnt alot from you already x

I am here for YOU!

Thata boy

YES please

My pleasure

I love the FOREPLAY Part! Dose any Bunny or Cowgirl want to help in this area?

I do!!!

Thanks Toeknee...the feeling is mutual..I cant wait to meet you!

"There's nothing better than good sex. But bad sex? A peanut butter and jelly sandwich is better than bad sex."
- Billy Joel

That just reminds me of something. Wasn't Christie Brinkley the spokesperson for Skippy peanut butter for a little while?

Umm..I dont think so..I will google it and see

I would doubt there is such thing as bad sex when Tamela Lee is concerned.

Just sayin' from where I am it's all GREAT !!!!

I am pretty sure you are gonna teach me a few new things as well

I agree how could sex with such a beautiful bunny be bad.

It won't be bad. Just by doing it, you'll subconsciously learn and be better. So it's better sex with Tamela Lee (practical application learning).

Ah ha...that is correct

Blindfold her

Sexual pleasure has many dimensions, but the most important sexual organ we have is our brain. When one sense is hindered, our other senses -- via the brain -- clamor to compensate. For example, a deaf person has increased sensory awareness -- sight, smell, touch, and vibrations. Blindfolding your partner increases her sensory awareness. She doesn’t know where you are or what you are going to do next. This creates anticipation for better sex -- the tease. Tease her mercilessly with sensory objects, such as a feather or your tongue. Start off softly, as this excites her nerve endings and makes them far more sensitive. Be careful not to overstimulate the nerve endings, however, because after a while the neurons stop firing with such intensity and the sensation becomes null and void.


Give her instructions

After a while you may think you know how to please your partner in every way, but this is very rarely true. There is always something you haven’t tried, and there is bound to be something one of you always does that could be done differently.

To combat this for better sex, have a lesson session in which you don’t think you know it all, and are at each other's mercy as teacher. Talk about things you haven’t tried, but would like to, then choose one suggestion from each partner, and get down and dirty. We often get caught thinking we know what our partners like, and after a while it becomes "the way it’s done." Lose this myth and put yourself in the student's chair for a while for better sex you won't regret.


Massage

Sensual touch is one of the most highly relaxing and sexy things you can do for your partner. Our bodies are almost without exception tense in some area, if not many areas. This hinders our energy flow -- including sexual energy flow. Imagine a car that has a clogged fuel filter: the fuel (our energy) can’t get to where it needs to go quickly and smoothly, and the car performs inefficiently and ineffectively.

A relaxing sensual massage can unlock her body to some very intense orgasms and much better sex in the end. The ability to relax your partner in this way should be high on your list of skills to master. The same goes for her: The difference between a deeply relaxing massage and a sensual massage is in the manner of touch -- you don’t want to relax her too deeply because she will probably fall straight to sleep.

I have to say blindfolds add a whole new dimension to sex.

We are such visual creatures that losing that sense gives you a new appreciation for your parter, raises the level of trust and intimacy as well.

Just sayin'....don't knock it til you try it.

I LOVE to geta Massage, but TOO much of a good thing is bad like you said. It will put me fast asleep!

But then I have has some great sex while sleeping -- IN MY DREAMS!

Will you keep me awake Miss Tamela? I so, I will be your BEST Friend forever!!!

Good stuff, Tamela!

I sure will!!!

GREAT! Now I just hope you plan on still being at the Ranch Next Spring/Summer when I am hoping to get by again!
And Maybe I will be able to schedule a day when you and Jayden are there together!

I plan on being here

I know a lot of people that only party with a lady once

and that's ok......Better Sex comes from learning and

trusting each other ...that works for me best

What a class to take. A must have!

My goal is to show my guests such an amazing time, that they will wanna come back to see me over and over agsin

I think you're doing a splendid job of that!

I love slow, prolonged foreplay. Its a time of discovery as each woman will be somewhat different. Finding the areas that send shivers up and down her spine, which side is the most sensitive, exploring the entire body slowly...ahhhhh

Along the same line, the very best sex is with someone who is responsive. The little moans or "ahh's" to give guidance, the verbalizing or guiding along the way are things I love. It makes the intimacy bond so much greater!

Thanks!!!

I couldnt agree more (-: Foreplay is underrated...Its like heating up the oven!!

Have her dress up

Pretending to be something you're not comes easily to some people. However, it has its benefits when done for fun. Stepping out of the role of being "yourself" can be a fun way to give each other permission to behave differently for better sex. Playing the role of someone else during sexual play is a very enjoyable way to give your partner some different sensations, and try things that you haven’t done before. Role playing is a great way to have better sex and to have fun with your partner in a light-hearted but sexy way. It is often the woman who does the dressing up simply because A) They enjoy it; and B) They have the resources of clothes, underwear and makeup -- but don't forget that you can play too..


Tell her your fantasies

Talking about your fantasies with your partner is a very conducive form of sex play. It increases communication with your partner, which is of great importance, as well, it also helps you get to know each other better for better sex. Yes, you may be surprised by what comes out of her mouth, but this works both ways. Keep it light at first and don’t throw her in the deep end with fantasies about people you both know or reveal fetishes you aren't sure about. Sit back with a glass of wine and keep your clothes on -- for now. Fantasy play can also be incorporated into a game for better sex. Use your imagination, and keep it sexy. Take it in turns and see where it leads you.


Play a game

Get a pack of cards and play strip poker for better sex. It may seem like something you would have done when you were in high school (given the opportunity), but adult strip poker is a good way to get naked. Once you are both naked (or nearly naked), you can start on the really fun part: A loss means the other person gets to choose what action is performed on them by the loser. Time limits like one minute on said action means that it is a prolonged game of seduction, which by the end will have you both clamoring to be both the winner and the loser. There are many other games you can play "strip" to, as long as there is regular winner and loser to reward and punish respectively. The great part about these games is that you can both ask the other person to do something in a certain way that you may not necessarily have ever done before. It can get rather filthy, and definitely lead to better sex in the end.


Dirty talk

Talking dirty has turned people on for millennia and will continue to do so because it has something other sex play doesn’t: words. Because our brains are our largest sexual apparatus, we respond to the spoken word automatically -- especially when someone says our name. The spoken word evokes emotions, sensations and blood flow to various regions, depending on the topic.

This works very much in your favor when it comes to talking dirty to your lover because women are especially susceptible to what goes in their ears (and I don’t mean cotton buds or ear candles). Talking dirty is, however, an art form and when done badly can result in fits of giggles (which, lets face it, ain't so bad but isn't quite the goal here). Don’t let this deter you.

All great suggestions and ways to increase the amount of energy.

I love your tips Tami!!

Care to play some cards?

Poker?!

Instead of a Texas Hold-'em tournament ...

Have a Strip Poker Tournament at the Bunnyranch...kind of like a party buy idea. Not sure how many would be game...but hey I'm always thinking and always up for something crazy.

YEAH!!! that would be fun!!!!!

Strip poker!
That's the fastest way to get us naked yeah?
"All in!"

Ah ha!! I know a faster way!!! lol

Oh enlighten me please (my shirt and boxers are a little heavy), but are we skipping the card games?

No we can def play.... I love playing cards!!

Ah.. now I know what to bring when we meet.
Maybe we could do something like kiss for X amount of minutes where X is the differential between the cards?

Whatever works..i like to go with the flow....

I agree. Once you go with the flow, everything will flow.
Ok that was really really lame.

New Sex tip

'Avocados contain vitamin B6 and potassium, two elements that help increase libido in both men and women.'

Will you teach me Tamela

Yes...as long as we can learn together

'Need another reason to eat well? Excess fat intake lowers testosterone levels in your body, decreases libido and makes erection and ejaculation more difficult.

But if I wait till after sex, I'll starve.

My goddness, my testosterone level is already so high. It'll be through the roof if I'll to lose more weight. Even with the medicine I'm taking.

Can't wait for my first lesson sweetie

Very very soon

I have a huge crush on the teacher

Really? I think if if i lose a bit and keep of my medicine, when you meet me, I'll reek of testosterone.

Bump

And I am gonna have a naughty student coming to see me soon

As long as it doesn't smell..I dont care what you reek of

yes you are and I am studying real hard

Nah it doesn't smell, but I guess since an increase in testosterone increase the sex drive. You might smell... a much 'sweatier' and if passion has a smell, that, time.

Hee hee

Awesome!!!

Sex tip of Day

Pop in earplugs.

It will enhance the sound of your breathing and block out the rest of the world so you can focus solely on your other four senses and enjoying one another's bodies

Heh Heh
*lick*

Is that an invitation Ms Tami?

An OPEN LEGS invitation

The pic of you sitting pool side and that piercing sparkling and seeing you clean shaven is just WOW!!

Now that's better SEX !!

Oh my. What an invitation! Probably the best kind of invitation.
Yes, I'm definitely going to enter.

Thanks..yes I look very smooth Just wait til I touch you~

How did this thread die?!

Tamela needs to share more of her sexpertise to create better sex for everyone, and of course "Better Sex with Tamela Lee."

Oh yea..I always learn a thing or two

Looking forward to it with great anticipation.

I think we just need more Tamela Lee.

Definitely looking forward to more Tamela.

A lot more to come----> literally!!!

Foreplay is always a good time!

For sure! I love kissing

Always..lots of kissing and licking!!