FOREWORD: This post is going to be a little heavier, and deeper, than you're used to seeing from me. It may tug at some sensitive strings, but I think it's important -- and every word is inspired by people I care about in the BunnyRanch community. I hope you find some comfort in it.

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Perhaps you recently got out of a relationship that was less than fulfilling.

Or you’re in one that never was.

Perhaps you’ve been alone for years, divorced or widowed, and have lost touch with your sexual and intimate core -- a part of yourself that’s as natural as the blood coursing through your veins, yet seemingly lifeless.

Perhaps you’ve distanced yourself emotionally, withdrawn socially, given up on the possibility of making a meaningful connection with a woman, cocooned yourself within your own heart -- the only place you find safe anymore.

Perhaps you’ve convinced yourself that the best of times are behind you.

Perhaps you’ve convinced yourself, worse yet, that you don’t deserve happiness, that your own transgressions, whatever they may be, disqualify you from contentedness, from love, from absolution.

Perhaps an ex convinced you of that.

Perhaps she, or he, ripped your heart out, and a piece of your soul went with it.

Perhaps your confidence has taken such a beating, time and time again, that you no longer have the energy to trust in yourself, let alone a woman.

Perhaps you’ve justified your unhappiness, decided you’re simply not worthy: not good-looking enough, not charming enough, not socially skilled enough, not thin enough, not big enough, not healthy enough, not financially stable enough, not this, not that, not the other thing. You've condemned yourself to a life of unrealized potential. Accepted it. You’re so lost in self-pity and self-loathing that you don’t know where excuses end and reality begins.

Perhaps it’s been so long since you touched a woman, touched one that way, that you’ve forgotten how. You’ve forgotten what it feels like, physically and emotionally. You’ve forgotten what a woman tastes like, sounds like, kisses like, smells like, looks like in the throes of genuine passion.

Perhaps you’ve never known, and it’s eating you up inside.

No more!

You are not alone.

You are in control.

You need not succumb to feelings of isolation, of disenchantment, of doubt.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard these stories. How many times I’ve heard, “It’s just not meant to happen for me.”

Everything is meant to happen for you. Everything!

The most personally gratifying thing I can offer you, even beyond toe-curling, mind-blowing sex, is the opportunity to help you see that. Or rediscover it.

I’m not going to sit here and say the BunnyRanch is the answer. I’m not even going to tell you it’s part of the answer. Answers rarely are so clear-cut.

But a visit to the ranch might help you find them. It might help you find yourself. It might be the first step toward a better, happier, healthier lifestyle. You don’t necessarily need a relationship, but you do need to feel desired. You do need intimacy. It can manifest itself sexually, spiritually, psychologically, emotionally. It’s something you at once share and internalize. It’s your lover’s, and it’s yours. It’s a part of your fiber. It’s who you are. It’s who we all are.

What's that, you say? You’re ashamed to seek a professional? You shouldn’t need to?

Phooey. It’s the world’s oldest profession for a reason. People have turned to us since the beginning of time, and will do so until the end. There is no shame in that, no matter what the puritanical forces of American culture might have you believe. And it's indisputably the safest outlet there is.

Don’t be controlled. Don’t be dissuaded. Don’t be disillusioned.

We all need a kick in the pants sometimes. And sometimes we need someone to just rip those pants off and remind us that we’re vital, we’re here, and we won’t always be.

Without judgment. Without inhibition. Without persecution, especially not from within. The worst kind.

You know?

If you don’t, let’s see what we can do about that.

annasuvari@bunnyranch.com

Should one need any more motivation to make a journey out to the ranches to see either you or any of the other women there this message should be the icing on the cake so to speek. Much truth in what you say Anna and thank you for saying it so eloquently.

Those situations are on point with my current single status all these years though out my life. And what bothers me more is that all my friends in my life have found their level happiness with someone. And I have gotten so close to finding "THE ONE" for example and it never evolves further. From that I build a huge social barrier towards the opposite sex that now friends try to get me to go out with them on double blind dates or just go to clubs to help me find a someone fore me. I always make up excuses to stay home. Its my own fault from low confidence, but when you had all those (Perhaps I quoted) happen to......you really just give up and want to be single the rest of your life. On top of that the embarrassment of still never have been intimate with a woman adds on to that dating pressure for most who are like me. But inside of me I have so much to give and just want to show any woman that I can be a lover, friend, and a companion you can all always count on no matter any circumstance.

Didn't mean to get all serious but that how I feel anyway.

Anna,that is beautifully written.We all have the need to feel desired,the need for intimacy.It's part of human nature to want these things.The sad part is,like you said,too many people give up on living and are just going thru life.I can see where the Bunnyranch,and you especially.have made many people realize that life is meant to be lived.I'm sure many people would say that you helped them realize these things,when it was they themselves just needed to realize them.You are the conduit for their realization.I know that you opened my heart,a heart that I thought was closed off,just by your kindness and generosity to me.You made me feel desired,you shared intimacy with me.You opened my eyes to the fact that the world is a beatiful place,when at times I could not see that.That is why you mean the world to me,and you always will.You will always have a special place in my heart,Anna.So to you,heartfelt thanks.I am the better for knowing you,Anna.The world is a better place because of you.Kisses to you,my sweet angel. Manny

VEry well written Anna. I believe that going to the ranch might help give people a boost in there life. I think this will help me get back on the saddle.

Anna, How did you get that far inside my head?

What a beautiful post. I couldn't agree more!

Wow, I just bought wifi service on the plane so I could read the message board. Only to find out that it was blocked for objectionable content. As you can see, I found a way to circumvent big brother. Information is supposed to be free.

I stopped believing in coincidence a long time ago, I've come to realize through meditation, yoga, and positive thinking, that it doesn't exist. There's a reason for everything, matter how small or seemingly insignificant. Life is a series of miracles, it's up to the individual to see them as they are.

A lot of what Anna said, I have expressed to her privately on a personal level, along with more of course from a plethora of gentlemen. No doubt that along with her intellect and educational background are the influencing factors in this post. I'm glad someone finally said it in the open, she really poked the proverbial bear with a stick. I only wish there was a way to really get this message out there so that way men across the planet could benefit from it.

For many years I never trusted my own intuition, and it could he said that I made mistakes. I tend to look at it as a way of life showing me the path and the difference between listening to your heart and your head. My most recent experience of this was that I stayed in a bad relationship because I saw that my mom and my dad who separated when I was young, they are still alone. They are both now senior citizens. I didn't want that to be me, and I let my logic convince me to ignore my heart and stay in an abusive relationship.

Luckily I realized one day that not everything in a relationship can be one persons fault. After all it takes two to tango. I also realized that at the level of consciousness my ex was operating at, she was doing the best she could, and so was I. It was at that point that I started to get an inkling of my addiction to false responsibility. I learned that I am in control, of myself only. I was responsible to myself only. Then I was able to let go of my ex, without anger or resentment and without blame. Don't get me wrong, I still was deeply hurt and it took time and effort to get past that. I did.

This all dovetails with my brother's experience in life, as does our quest for personal truth. We never combined our talents until this past summer, and since then things have gotten overwhelmingly better for us both. We cemented this change at the BunnyRanch, now I've always thought sex was more than physical, in some way it's spiritual expression. I've felt like that with every partner I've had, I've never had meaningless sex.

But until I came to the ranch, I don't think I have ever had truly meaningful sex. It was truly a cosmic experience, one that I will never forget. It was unlike anything I have ever experienced and it's truly indescribable. I had already gotten my kick in the pants, but my ranch experience literally awakened something in me that had been dormant. Something I believed existed, but never achieved while with another human being.

So Laci Ann, Anna, Dennis, and all the Bunnies I have yet to interact with, I thank you for your enlightening and life altering experience. The service you provide operates on a higher level than many of us realize, even if it's in subtle ways.

Best wishes to all!

David

What a soul!!!

Intamacy is key for great sex!

It is indeed, but I think its also key for life I saw that picture, I envy and am very happy for my brother!

I'm hearing so many stories about how people are giving up on discovering, or rediscovering, a satisfying sex life. It makes me ache for them. I want to do whatever I can to help. It doesn't matter how long it's been, how experienced you are ... none of that. It's never too late.

Thanks for commenting.

What a fantastic post, Anna. It let's me know you have learned and understood the pain of many of your clients over the years. I feel like much of my life experiences are far from unique after reading this!

Very very well written and very poignant Annie.

Might I say that beneath all my facades of false bravedo, of forced emotional detachment and repression, is a really raw and sensitive nerve that this has hit.

Excuse me as I begin to start tearing, but I'll just say, I'm happy to have made a first step, and personally for me, it was a very happy first step in the right direction.

Well stated.

Many thanks.

Great topic Miss Anna

It's crazy you really don't decide to stop all physical contact with
women for over 8 years. You just build a little wall to protect your feels
and emotions after a messy split ,and then another little wall ..then another

Then you say next year I'll date some but then you think I'm not ready
then you throw yourself into your work...thinking it will help .

Then other relationships in your life are impacted because your only human
You know you need Sex and intimacy ...but you need it on your own terms

Start today bring your self built walls down let the ladies help you

Just don't wait 8 years like I did.

Everybody is wondering what in the hell happen to me (LOL)
at work with my family ...I'm more social

Because when you feel good people can see it (good luck)

I had been on a three year hiatus until my trip to the ranch, it took incredible courage on my part to make the commitment to go after having been through hell. Scared, nervous, words can't begin to describe how I felt walking in that door.

I then met my date, Anna. She started talking with me, smiling, I looked into those incredible eyes and it all started melting away. Everything she said in her initial post for this thread goes. Its rejuvenating mentally, emotionally and physically to be with these lovely and caring ladies... make it happen for you!

That's nice Anna.
I'm thinking if I print this out and submit it to my insurance co they may consider
a trip to the ranch as therapy and cover it!!
Wouldn't that be sweet.
Dewey

This post sums up your huge heart Anna!!!! You Bunnies do such a service to all of us!!!

Let me know how that works out for you.

The more i read Anna's writings I am truly in aww. So many people with similar pain. It really makes me wonder what is wrong with us.

Superbly written and on point. So true in so many ways.

Anna, you hit the nail on the head. IMHO, those who are hit the hardest by that line of thinking are the ones who have never had any sort of relationship. They are rejected again and again and again, which leads them to think that they are unworthy of love. And without outside influence, this mental trap is almost impossible to get out of. It is something that I have a great deal of experience with. I am still stuck there myself. One day I will save up enough money to journey out to the Ranch and lose my virginity. I hope that day comes soon.

Well put "breastlvr", We continue to be of like mind.

After reading Anna's post, I was reminded of an old saying by the German scholar/philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche:
"There are horrible people who, instead of solving a problem, tangle it up and make it harder to solve for anyone who wants to deal with it. Whoever does not know how to hit the nail on the head should be asked not to hit it at all."

Anna, You truly 'hit-the-nail-on-the-head' on more than a few points...
Thank you for expressing yourself so passionately.

It makes me so sad when rejection leads to a loss of confidence. Even the BunnyBabes don't bat 1.000 -- every time there's a lineup, all but one lady gets rejected.

One day -- or night -- I hope I can help, sweetie!

What a great line! Thank you for your kind words, yacht! Muah!

Well said, my friend!

You are very welcome! I was happy to have had a part in your "enlightening and life altering experience".

Kisses to you!

Before meeting the love of life I had more then my share of heart ache Anna, and I only wish there were more souls as kind as yours, may be my heart ache would not have lasted as long. Thank you for this

this is the post that convinced me, I've heard myself say alot of these things.. a trip is in the planning stages.

Happy I could help. Looking forward to seeing you!

Beautiful post Anna....it really hit home on a number of points and drives home why you are so special.

Hi Anna, you were truly right about this being a "heavier and deeper" post than we're used to seeing here and judging from the responses you've obviously "tugged at some sensitive strings". Not surprising that you have been able to do that from the little bit I know of you. You are definitely a gift and a life changer to many! I appreciate so much you publishing your thoughts, deep or fun or thought provoking, and the hope that you inspire!
Thank You!!

The feeling is mutual, piglet!

Hope you have as much light in your life as you bring

I appreciate your feedback, Kell! Always love hearing from you.

I appreciate your kind words, root! I've seen it happen time and time again -- a heart is broken, and the person has no idea how to patch it back together ... or even where to begin. The BunnyRanch is not an end, but a possible beginning. Sometimes you just need a little jump-start.

Smooch!

Very sweet of you to say. Likewise, SF!

If any one ever needs further proof that Anna is the best there is, they just need to read this post.

Yes, at least one of these descriptions generally applies to me.

Dear, sweet Anna, I can't wait to spend time with you and some of the other ladies in March!

Aw, thanks, gumbo! Where've you been all my life?

Where have you been all of ours? Please don't ever leave.

I agree

No immediate plans ...

Thanks for making me feel adored.

How does one respond when someone paints your emotions with such clarity, explains the empty place that you are unable to fill, why you never complain about coming home late from work, are always ready to take the out of town assignment, don't mind spending lonely nights in a hotel, avoid any social event that might lead to something more.

I must say Anna has painted me well.


She is a gift to all like us. Sharing her immense warmth with us. Accepting our troubled emotions without judgment. Giving us the chance to live and breath again. Showing us there is life after _______________ . Fanning the embers of passion, we long believed to be extinguished, into flames of passion.

I have been lucky enough to meet Anna and share her warmth. I know she engages in her trade at the bunny ranch, but having shared that overflowing well of warmth and caring that is her trademark, I have difficulty seeing her as a working girl. I see her as a true friend, working girl or not.

Few have the warmth and caring Anna so boldly displays. Even fewer share it beyond those they have known for many years. Anna willingly shares those emotions and accepts the risks that come with it.

We will never be able to return that which she so freely gives.

We can only shout THANK YOU as loud as we can.

ursahug, You have just put into words the exact sentiments I have felt ever since I met Anna. She is without doubt the most incredible and charming woman I have ever had the pleasure of meeting and knowing. She is one of a kind and I too thank her for being much more than just a friend.

So glad this outlet was available to you when you needed it, VT.

Anna and I have traded a couple of PMs on this subject but I want to say that this topic really oput things into prospective. Some of you know my story and my fear of rejection and probably ultimately, fear of committment. I do know that someday, somewhere, I will find that someone special who is waiting out there for me. For all I know, I may have already met her but just don't know it yet.

You deserve to feel adored the way you make us feel like kings.

i agree

How am I supposed to respond to that, ursa?

I think I'm the one who should be shouting that. I'll always feel that way.

You'll be fine, sweetie. The best things in life happen when you least expect them.

Thanks to people like you, I do.

Anna,I sent you a PM telling you my thoughts about this thread.Take a look when you get a chance.

Will do, babe! Thank you!

thank you Anna....I have found that to be so true

Keep the faith, dreams!

I am my dear....I am

I hear you dude. I'm sorta in the same shoes but definitely due to different circumstances. Personally for me, I'll be honest and say I've steeled up myself and my heart and have sorta given up looking.

I've pretty much given up looking myself and I had one very good prospect over the summer but it didn't last. Maybe someday, when I'm not looking anymore, she will find me...at least that's what I hope

If it didn't last, it simply wasn't the right one. No sense in letting it get you down.

you are absolutely correct, Anna.....it felt right until the very very end.....live and learn

I've heard most of my life that women want commitment, not "friends with benefits" so I haven't really actively sought something I've been told no one is interested in. Also, I hear women want confidence, and I'm not going to pretend to be something I'm not. I don't get very excited about the prospect of going through all the games and tests to learn if a romance is compatible. I'd always rather just skip right to the part where we're comfortable just hanging out in our underwear together.

Sometimes I feel like the BunnyRanch or other adult-oriented establishment is a very dangerous place for my personality type. The ease with which I can make a satisfying intimate connection with a beautiful, intelligent woman reduces my drive to search for that kind of relationship elsewhere.

But having experienced it for myself, I can sing the praises of the BunnyRanch with artful eloquence and the strength of conviction, without the burden of multiple perspectives for comparison.

Go see a lineup, make an appointment, or just stop in for a drink at your earliest convenience! The ladies will be happy to see you, and even happier to serve you!

Thank you, tinyb!

I'm not confident I'm ready for commitment, by the way.

Miss ya much!

How about FBFs? Friends /w Benefits Forever?

Absolutely!

Sometimes, it's when you stop looking that things start to happen. Good things are in store for you, I know it!

I guess so, but I've always believe in that we are able to control things. You know, something like if you don't look for gold, you won't find it, and gold doesn't just drop down from the sky into your lap.

But saying that, in my case, it's not about stopping to look anymore. It's really come to the point weather I want it anymore. That if it came up to me, would I walk away from it all as I just really can't bare anymore to have my heart crushed, sliced and diced and thrown around like a worthless rag toy, and dare not take the risk anymore. I guess that's my rationale on why I've steeled myself up, repressed my emotions to become cold and ruthless and usually tend to keep my relationship with woman at more than arms length. All just protective mechanisms.

That wall of yours will come down. It's just a matter of time. It always is. You have to be open to possibility, but I don't think you necessarily have to be actively looking. You never know -- someone might be looking for you.

I've lived life in a single room
Hiding my scars from the moon
I dream my dreams in the light
Rehearse the lines I already know
Basking in the TV's glow
And pray that tonight is the night

Ooh there's gotta be more to this
A future hanging on a stranger's kiss
Could it be I'm not so alone

I'm someone special
I'm just in disguise
I may not be perfect
In everyone's eyes
It may not be tomorrow
But I still believe
There's someone special
Waiting out there for me

I guess the joke hasn't hit me yet
Cause I'm still waiting on my Juliet
She must be held up somewhere
Ooh she'll be the air I breathe
She'll come for good and never wanna leave
And I'll love her only I swear

People say there must be something wrong
For me to be all alone so long
And their words hit me like a stone

I'm someone special
I'm just in disguise
I may not be perfect
In everyone's eyes
It may not be tomorrow
But I still believe
There's someone special
Waiting out there for me

Lying in bed in a cold, cold sweat
Dreaming about women I'll never get
I won't always be sleeping alone

I'm someone special
I'm just in disguise
I may not be perfect
In everyone's eyes
It may not be tonight
But I still believe
There's someone special
Waiting out there for me
Yeah there's someone special
Waiting out there for me
Waiting out there for me
She's waiting out there for me
Ooh ooh
For me

I really hope so Anna, I truely hope so. If it does come, I just hope I'll might be able to risk it and break down my wall. Unfortunately at this point of time, I dare not. I'll rather be empty than be hurt again.

Responding is very easy. Flash that spectacular smile, gaze with those glorious green eyes, and share some of that wonderful wit.

I'll try, but you're known to render me speechless.

I've had it proven to me many times that when I stop trying/looking for something, it usually turns up in the most unexpected place. With so many bad relationships and associated hurts, I think its time to quit trying and see what happens. In the meantime, I know from experience that Anna is a huge boost to the ego and just a generally great person. I think this might also be true of other girls at the ranch too, so until this magical person comes into my life, I'll be trying to find my way to the ranch for some additional fantasy time with ladies there.

My first trip was beyond believe, thank you again Anna!

Maybe speechless, but far from silent.

I'm so glad I had the honor! You're wonderful to be around, and I love your naughty mind!

Happy Thanksgiving, TF!

Anna

Guilty as charged!

1.Perhaps you’ve justified your unhappiness, decided you’re simply not worthy: not good-looking enough
2.you’ve been alone for years
3.Perhaps you’ve distanced yourself emotionally, withdrawn socially, given up on the possibility of making a meaningful connection with a woman, cocooned yourself within your own heart -- the only place you find safe anymore.

Those three describe my life 100%

But the worse was while i was at work at Boeing and was moved to another location and i saw this girl...she was 22 had a 4 year old kid but that did not bother me one bit..lets just say i was hook..3 months later i musterd up the courage to ingadge a conversaion with her but then my friend/fellow co worker comes in asks her out and off they go, well thats cool it might not last that long. then it was after new years we come back to work and she is flirting with me saying i would make a good this or that,following week i gather the courage to tell her how i felt about her and all that good stuff...her responce...it turns me on when guys are jelous of me im just using you to make ---- more into me....now days i just spend all my time working not even trying to get a lady friend for massive fear that would happen again. Story of my life sorry for the novel

Are you asking for a plea bargain or are you throwing yourself on the court's mercy?

Somehow, I sense that mercy is unlikely.

After a thorough review of all the evidence presented and consideration of the numerous positive comments filed on your behalf, the court has decided there is only one suitable sentence.

It is therefore the decision of this court that you shall serve a least 5 days per month at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch for the next 2 years.

What are the chances my sentence will be commuted for good (bad) behavior?

none at all

Hmm. We'll just see about that.

Have you considered bribing the Judge?

I've considered it, yes, but that's so much easier to do in person, don't you think?

That's awful. I'm so sorry that happened to you. You deserve better. Everyone does.

Thank you for showing me what it feels like to be wanted.

I assure you, it was my pleasure!

Oh no the pleasure was all mine to give to you and Laci to......I had alot stored up.

All depends on the nature of the bribe.

You certainly did!

I got more.... !!

So do I ...

And she took the words out of my mouth. LOL!