Sugar Dating: Let’s Stop Sugar-Coating Prostitution

Is being a sugar baby on a sugar dating site the same as being a prostitute? The short and most honest answer is absolutely, yes. Some sugar babies might circumvent this fact by saying that they are merely compensated for their time and companionship and not sex. I know this is true because in the past I, too, have confidently argued the same.

I am a sex worker, and now a legal prostitute at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch in Mound House, Nevada. Formerly, however, I have identified as a “sugar baby,” and I was a highly successful one at that. Through my sugar lifestyle, I could pay for college and further studies, travel the world and experience luxuries. I embodied and reveled in being a spoiled-rotten sugar baby, and thus I do not make my claim from ignorance but rather from several years of experience.

Yes, there are some sugar relationships that are not based upon sex; the same is true for some relationships with legal prostitutes and their clients. As legal prostitutes, all things that we do, or do not do, are declared and negotiated. As a legal prostitute, I have been paid to share in an innocuous bubble bath session with a man, and then take a nap—no sex, just “time and companionship.” We are not always compensated for sex, just like sugar babies are not. Thankfully, my sugar experiences were mostly all positive but that is not a presumption that I am at all smarter, nor necessarily took better precautions, than others with unfortunate experiences; I was just lucky.

Bobbi Besos from Dennis Hof’s Moonlite Bunny Ranch

While I am grateful and privileged to have had many positive sugar experiences, the unfortunate reality is that not all aspiring sugar babies do. Negative sugaring-related scenarios such as the tragic death of murdered Google executive Forrest Hayes seem rare, but only because the disheartening experiences many sugar daddies and sugar babies have had are often not publicized. Few people are as brave as my Bunny Ranch colleague Alex, who revealed her sugar-dating horror story this past September. 

Online platforms such as Seeking Arrangement, which host millions of eager sugar babies and sugar daddies/mommies, are simply pimping schemes that admit no responsibility for their users’ safety. The legal distinctions that separate sugar babies and illegal prostitutes are flimsy, and sugar websites get away with offering what they do by promoting the fantasy that sugaring is so entirely different from prostitution when it is exactly that—prostitution. Further, the way such websites market their quasi-innocence is the same way an illegal escorting service or company works: if the “Daddy” takes the “baby” on a “date” for an “agreed upon” “allowance”, then whatever “adult activities” that occur afterwards in the bedroom between consenting adults is their own business—which is indeed true. My intent is not at all to judge what is normal and natural for us all. EVERYBODY has sex, and someone is always paying for it in some way. I get it; sugaring is an enticing route for young women, particularly students like me, and I have done it. The distinct problem with sugar websites is that they overtly promote a farce and take no responsibility when things go awry, consequently rendering all parties involved infinitely vulnerable.

Bobbi Besos was formerly a sugar baby on sugar dating websites

Perhaps the reason why sugar dating websites are so popular is because people are more comfortable with euphemistic terms such as “sugar” instead of “transaction,” and “sugar baby” instead of “prostitute.” The legal Nevada brothel system, conversely, is designed for everybody’s safety: sex workers are tested weekly for diseases, and must identify as legal prostitutes and obtain a sheriff’s card within their working county. Equally, legal prostitutes work in a safe environment and may choose to turn away absolutely any client they do not wish to entertain. Everything is unequivocally transparent for both legal sex workers and clients. Legal prostitution—besides being legal—is structured, regulated, and the wholly empowering option for young women and their clients, and keeps us all safer.

Maybe the phenomenon of sugar dating speaks to a larger issue about society’s lack of acceptance of prostitution, an inevitable social situation that permeates every city in the world and will never go away. Because prostitution is scorned by the status quo, despite being ubiquitous, it allows savvy but morally questionable business persons to take advantage of ways to sugar-coat the unlawful sex industry and shrewdly dodge law enforcement. If people just accepted sex-for-money as a social norm, prostitution would be legal everywhere in the USA and brothels wouldn’t be limited to the rural areas of Nevada — and there would be no need for sugar dating. 

When I realized and accepted the truth of exactly what I was doing, I delighted in my own self-honesty and self-discovery and admitted to myself exactly who I am: an intelligent, well-travelled, and well-educated young woman who happens to work as a prostitute. I decided my safety is paramount. Regarding my work, I chose to proceed in a legal and safe direction to continue to be successful. I am much happier working legally in a Nevada brothel than navigating the grey sugar world. Most importantly, I no longer lie to myself and I take greater pride in everything I do and represent, with a complete understanding of myself, my goals, and the clients I see.

Bobbi Besos

Bobbi Besos

University of Nevada, Reno graduate student Bobbi Besos is a self-described "natural nymphomaniac." A highly coveted VIP companion sought after by men, women, and couples, Bobbi is currently taking bookings as a premier companion at Dennis Hof's Moonlite Bunny Ranch near Reno, Nevada.

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To Faithful Men Who Chose Monogamy, But Not Celibacy

She’s the love of your life. She’s beautiful, and you always want her. But, lately, something has been missing… As much as you’d like to fulfill all your intimate desires with only her, and as much as she’d love to reciprocate, it’s just not possible right now. You’ve tried everything, and it’s not working. A part of you is slowly suffocating; you signed up for monogamy, not celibacy.

The physical repression has begun to take a toll on the rest of your relationship and your ability to care for her. You still have every intention to stay by her side to the very end, just as you always vowed, but you know that if you don’t start taking care of yourself, you won’t be able to continue being the partner she deserves. If only there were some way to seek the relief and comfort that you need to stay strong and supportive for her when she needs it most…

Amelia Heart from Dennis Hof’s Kit Kat Ranch near Reno, Nevada

I’ve recently encountered several clients who are happily married, in love and lust with their spouses, but, due to physical, neurological, or mental health limitations, their wives are unable to continue intimacy at the level they desire (if at all). Some prognoses are only temporary, while others may be permanent or terminal. These clients find that the inability to continue to express themselves in intimate ways leads to a core part of themselves becoming deprived, which is damaging the relationship and inhibits their ability to live up to what they promised as a faithful spouse.

I’d personally like to commend those who dig deep to consider what they were really committing to when it came to choosing to love and support one person for the rest of their lives — those who can think about what it means to “put your own oxygen mask on first” in order to take care of another. We all have needs as human beings, and sometimes truly caring for someone else means rethinking superficial constraints and choosing to transcend the physical boundaries that were enacted under different circumstances, when there were no limits on fulfilling intimate desires between partners.

I have to express great admiration for those clients who have reached out under these circumstances, because it goes against a lot of traditional understanding of what it means to be married and faithful to one’s partner. But, when intimacy isn’t possible with the one you love most in the world, the psychological devastation of denying that part of yourself altogether can undermine all other efforts to care for them.

Fortunately, a solution exists: we, the courtesans at the legal brothels in Nevada, are experienced in surrogate intimacy and can help to bridge this gap. We are here for emotional support, physical closeness, and friendship through these difficult times. While what sets us apart from other platonic support structures is the physical connection we provide, the psychological side effects of reconnecting with this part of oneself can be even more profound. One recent client stated to me in a private message, quoted with his permission:

“Within hours of calling the Bunny Ranch to book that first party […], I experienced a change in attitude, outlook, and the way I interacted with my family and friends. That is, just knowing relief was on the way precipitated a profoundly positive change, a few weeks ahead of my actually being at the ranches.”

If you are struggling with the challenges of being in a loving, committed relationship that no longer provides an outlet for sexual release, I invite you to consider the opportunity to find that outlet here in a safe, discreet way that supports your desire to care for your partner in all other ways. Remind yourself what it was like to experience all the physical pleasures; I promise I won’t take offense if you find yourself thinking about her the whole time you are with me. In fact, I hope that you do.

Amelia Heart

Amelia Heart

A slender, all-natural brunette, Amelia Heart is a confident, compassionate, and open-minded woman seeking to share all the vitality and spirit of life, of which sensuality and sexuality are such important components. She is currently seeing clients at Dennis Hof's Kit Kat brothel near Reno, Nevada.

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 The Risky Business of Sugar Dating Websites

I was fairly new to the sex industry when I started at the Bunny Ranch in 2010. I had worked as a webcam model for about a year before working up the nerve to email Madam Suzette, the legal brothel’s general manager, and do my first tour as a licensed sex worker. Webcam model being a clever euphemism for “girl who will get naked and do what you ask of her” on the internet. That’s the thing about euphemisms; they’re used to soften a term that would generally be considered embarrassing or harsh. There are a lot of euphemisms for prostitutes: call girl, courtesan, working girl, escort, etc. Even though it may be a controversial position to take, I’d add another term to that list: sugar baby.

I spent over four years at the Bunny Ranch before I decided to sign up on a popular sugar dating website. Although I loved working at the ranch, I found it increasingly difficult to explain the long periods of time that I was spending away from my home in the Midwest. The idea of maintaining a good income locally while continuing to work in an ostensibly legal manner appealed to me. My work as a legal prostitute caused me to approach the sugar baby game with a skeptical but open mind. I’m a girl who likes her research so I read a lot of the rhetoric arguing that being a sugar baby isn’t the same as prostitution. Every single argument made me a little angry as they all revolved around total misconceptions of sex workers; i.e. we’re uneducated, have no goals or other options, and the one that bothered me the most: that, unlike sugar babies, we don’t have real affection for our clients. I have a number of long-term clients that I care very much for.

All of that aside, I was willing to see for myself if being a sugar baby felt any different. The reality was simply that it didn’t. Another supposed distinction that I had read was that sugar relationships aren’t transactional, but from the very start that wasn’t my experience. Each conversation with prospective sugar daddies took the same predictable course. After taking a little time to get to know each other the talk would always lead to a negotiation of what my “allowance” would be and how much time my suitor would get in return. Every single man I spoke with made sure to inquire if sex was part of the equation. If that’s not transactional then I literally don’t know the meaning of that word.

Alex Page from Dennis Hof's Moonlite Bunny Ranch
Alex Page from Dennis Hof’s Moonlite Bunny Ranch

While my experience in both worlds left me feeling like there was little distinction between the two, there is one fundamental area where they differ, and that is safety. The single most dangerous propaganda that sugar sites use to convince women that this isn’t prostitution is telling them that sugar daddies understand that sex isn’t a guarantee. I learned the hard way that this isn’t so. The man I eventually met with lived in a small town about thirty minutes away from me. After a few phone calls I decided that I would drive out and meet him for dinner. It was an odd experience. I love to laugh, and he was pretty humorless. His secretary was with him, and he explained this by stating that she would be who I would contact if I ever needed a dress for an event or reservations for travel. Halfway through dinner his pastor joined us, and I sat there uncomfortably while they discussed a charity run they were organizing. I left the dinner thinking he seemed like an eccentric but decent guy who I wasn’t sure I’d want to enter into a long-term arrangement with. I did agree to meet him once more the following week.

When it came time for our second date I tried to call and cancel because my car was in the shop. Against my better judgement, I agreed to let him pick me up with the caveat that I would not be staying with him. When he picked me up he handed me a reloadable AmEx card and said he’d put half of the weekly amount I expected onto it. I told him that it wasn’t necessary as we were still getting to know each other. He insisted and said to keep it just for having dinner with him. He ended up taking me to the same restaurant, and afterwards he said he wanted to stop by his house to check on his dogs. It made me nervous, but when he asked if I wanted to come in and see them I said that I did. I guess I let my guard down when I was greeted by two little teacup yorkies. After I sat on his couch and started playing with them, he came and sat next to me. I didn’t think anything of it until he started rubbing my shoulders.

I tensed up and told him that I should be getting home. When he didn’t stop I moved to get up, and that’s when he grabbed me roughly by the hair and pulled me towards him. I yelled for him to stop. He reminded me of the AmEx card and told me he was going to get what he paid for. In the end, he did. After he dragged me to his bedroom, he took what he wanted, and when it was all over he went to sleep. I spent the rest of the night on his couch cursing myself for being so stupid. In the end, I knew what happened wasn’t my fault, but it’s also fair to say that I had made some crucial mistakes. After an excruciating ride home with him the following morning, I immediately deleted my profile on the website, and blocked his number. The AmEx card didn’t make me feel any better about what had happened, but I did feel even worse when I found out that the balance on it was zero.

People who know me and what I went through were concerned when I decided to come back to the Bunny Ranch. They wondered how I could return to this line of work after what I had gone through. For me, the answer is simple. I love men, and I love sex. I’ve always been passionate about and enjoyed the services I provide, and one awful encounter hasn’t changed that. In fact, it’s only made me a stronger advocate for practicing sex work in a safe and legal environment. And that goes both ways. For every horror story of women seeking sugar, there are just as many for the men providing the sweets. If a sugar daddy is married, he has no way of knowing if he’s embarking on an arrangement that will lead him to bringing a sexually transmitted disease home to his wife. Speaking of wives, I had a conversation with a potential sugar daddy who was wary of meeting because his previous baby contacted his spouse when he ended her allowance. The worst story of all made national news when a Google executive was murdered by a sugar baby he met on a sugar dating website.

In telling my story, it’s not my intention to put down or to terrify the numerous women who, like me, gravitated to sugar dating in an attempt to make better lives for themselves. I know that there are many women who have had positive experiences as independent escorts, call girls, or as sugar babies — and that there are a lot of online resources to help connect potential clients and illegal prostitutes, like sugar dating websites. But, as I mentioned earlier, the bottom line is that “sugar dating” is a euphemism for “prostitution,” and prostitution is an unregulated and illegal industry throughout most of the United States. Unlike in a licensed Nevada brothel, there is no legislation ensuring for the safety and health of the young women and men who connect via sugar dating websites. I learned the hard way that no one had my back as a sugar baby, and that I was totally alone and vulnerable with out any industry standards or practices to support me.

It’s unfortunate that Nevada is currently the only State where sex workers can practice their profession in a safe, discreet, healthy, and regulated environment. If a Bunny Ranch was located just outside my Midwest home, I would have avoided one of the biggest mistakes of my life.

Alex Page

Alex Page

A sophisticated companion from the American Midwest offering an exquisite Girlfriend Experience to discerning men, women, and couples; Alex Page is a licensed courtesan currently available at Dennis Hof's Moonlite Bunny Ranch.

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How Becoming a Working Girl Improved My Body Image

I consider myself a person of high self esteem with a very positive body image. I love my curvaceous figure and my soft, supple skin. I am an athletic, healthy, and shapely young woman with a great attitude, a lust for life, and an eagerness to explore what the future has to offer. Also, I’m sexy as hell and I know how to work my voluptuous body to amply and utterly please my numerous lovers.

However, I didn’t always feel this way about myself and my body. As an average, middle class girl growing up in the Western United States, I was subjected to the usual trials and tribulations of an American teenager. Being a little on the curvy side, I quickly noticed that I looked very different from the vast majority of girls portrayed on television, online, and in fashion magazines. I remember being in my early teens and picking up an issue of Teen Vogue with a picture of Emma Watson on the cover and a headline that said something like “Tips on what to wear if you’re curvy, short, thin, etc.” I remember paging through the magazine and getting very depressed because I realized that I wanted to be the lithe, slender Emma Watson type that’s pretty enough for the cover of the magazine and not the full-figured model in the middle of the book showing off the merits of fit and flare dresses.

Amber Adams from Dennis Hof's Sagebrush Ranch near Reno, Nevada
Amber Adams from Dennis Hof’s Sagebrush Ranch near Reno, Nevada

Like many young women, I became obsessed with my appearance and I spent more time than I should’ve looking at myself in front of a mirror and obsessing over every bulge and valley of my body — to the point where my “flaws” became exaggerated in my mind, and began to affect the way I perceived myself. When you’re young and susceptible to the pressures of society, a negative body image can make you feel as if you’re less than worthy of certain things because you can’t see yourself in empowering roles that are almost always portrayed in the media by women that don’t look like you. I began to have thoughts like, “Well, I should settle for this unfulfilling relationship or this crappy part-time job — after all, what more should a girl like me expect out of life.” I could never be “the star,” because women that look like me are the supporting characters.

Of course, you would never know that I had these hangups if you met me in high school. I had a bubbly personality, I received decent grades, I had healthy friendships, I dated, and I had the usual amount of moderately enjoyable sex. But there was always a barrier, an invisible and imaginary limitation that I put on myself no matter what I did in life. Like too many teenaged women on the cusp of adulthood, these negative thoughts about my body eventually got situated into my subconscious and became a part of me that was always present but barely perceptible, limiting my potential in every aspect of my life. 

Amber Adams Blue split

After high school I moved to the Pacific Northwest and I had my first taste of independence, which meant that I was dead broke and had to find a job to pay the bills ASAP. Although being a barista in several of the the seemingly unlimited coffee shops Seattle has to offer was a lot of fun and a great way to make new friends, it wasn’t long before I realized that I needed to get a higher paying job if I wanted to stay on my feet and save some money.

Several of the women I met at the coffee shop were sex workers of one sort or another, and they suggested I get involved in adult entertainment. At first I thought that this was something I could never do. I mean, I could never be a sex symbol. That role was for the girls who were on the magazine’s cover, not the fit and flare dress girls.

Fortunately, the need for cash superseded my personal hangups and I got involved with exotic dancing and adult videos. As I experimented more and delved deeper into the world of adult entertainment, something began to happen. People began to treat me like I was something extraordinary. I began to make more and more money and I received sexual offers from men and women alike. I was desired — someone to be exalted and revered. Someone that people would pay to experience an evening with. People wanted me — wanted my body. Slowly but steadily, the barriers that were preventing me from seeing myself as a beautiful, amazing, and absolutely worthy person were beginning to crumble.

AMBER (16)

By the time I decided to become a legal working girl at Dennis Hof’s Sagebrush Ranch in Nevada, so that I could offer intimacy and sensuality to my newfound suitors, the wall impeding me from loving myself was all but shattered. Through my work as a licensed courtesan, I learned that people lust after and crave a variety of body types — and I learned that what people see in magazines and what people long for and fantasize about when they close their eyes at night are often two very different things. I learned that we all have hangups of various sorts, and that it’s important to have someone in your life to be intimate with and to talk to about the things that prevent us from being the best people we could be and enjoying life to the fullest.

I’m having the time of my life (and the best sex of my life) and I never felt livelier or more desired. I feel like I’m on the cover of a magazine every day, and I can’t wait to make you feel that way too.

Amber Adams

Amber Adams

A curvy redheaded seductress, Amber Adams is the girl next door you just can't get enough of. This sexy Seattle native is currently entertaining clients at Dennis Hof's Love Ranch near Reno, Nevada.

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Nevada Brothel Prices

“How much do services cost at a legal Nevada brothel?” is one of the most common questions I’m asked regarding my occupation as a licensed working girl at Dennis Hof’s Love Ranch near Carson City, Nevada. Well, the short answer is: It’s negotiable.

A slightly longer answer is: It’s negotiable, but rest assured that Dennis Hof’s legal working girls service men, women, and couples from all walks of life — from high-powered CEO’s to blue collar workers — and everyone walks away from their experience with a big smile on their face and an eagerness to visit again, regardless of their budget.

Not satisfied with that answer? Let’s take a deeper look at the facts regarding Nevada brothel pricing, and see if I can help you understand why the answer to “How much?” is not as clear cut as most people might think.

To begin with, Nevada is the only state in the USA that allows legal prostitution in the form of safe, regulated bordellos. Generally speaking, it is unlawful for any person to physically engage in prostitution or solicitation (offering to pay for sex or asking for money in exchange for sexual services) anywhere other than inside a legal brothel. Because of this legal factor, we ladies discuss the details regarding our prices only in the privacy of the bordello.

When you visit a legal brothel, you will usually enter a welcoming parlor and be greeted by a friendly hostess who will call a lineup of all of the available ladies. These ladies will briefly introduce themselves one by one, and then you will be faced with the delightfully difficult task of selecting your courtesan of choice. Your lady will give you a brief tour of the establishment and then take you to her room where you will have a private discussion about how she will make all of your dreams come true and transform all of your most intimate fantasies into unforgettable realities. Because this conversation includes costs for the services discussed, we call it “the negotiation.”

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Roxanne Price from Dennis Hof’s Love Ranch North near Reno, NV

Everything is Negotiable, and Every Working Girl is Unique

There are no set prices at legal Nevada brothels because every working girl is an independent contractor who decides on how much she prefers to charge for a particular experience. The decision on how much we charge is entirely our own and may vary from customer to customer at our discretion, based on a variety of factors including, but not limited to:

Time

Obviously, if a client is looking for a 15-30 minute quickie while on his lunch break, he will likely be charged less than the gentleman who decides to take me on a four-day excursion to Las Vegas as his romantic companion during a convention. As the cliché goes, “Time is Money,” and that holds true when negotiating with a sex worker. Time is precious — and it’s even more valuable when it’s time spent in the most romantic of environments engaging in the most intimate of activities. All of the working girls at Dennis Hof’s collection of brothels sincerely appreciate the time our clients spend with us, and we take great care to ensure that moments spent with us are among the most cherished and memorable of our client’s lives.

Activities

The types of sexual and intimate activities that a client desires to engage in with a courtesan will usually impact the cost of services. The very popular “Girlfriend Experience,” in which a lady gives of herself emotionally as well as physically to a client, and both client and courtesan deeply confide in each other and share a highly intimate encounter, is often considered more valuable than, say, a stress-relieving and immensely satisfying — but not overly intimate — blow job.

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Value

Each individual working girl values the services she offers differently. An hour of “Half & Half” (fellatio and intercourse) with one woman may cost a little more, or dramatically less, than the same activity with another courtesan. Some women may be popular porn stars who charge a premium based on their celebrity. Also, certain activities, like sexual role play for example, may come naturally to some courtesans, so they may prefer to engage in it often and price the service lower than a woman who needs to rehearse and seriously prepare for a sex party in which she’s required to play a character other than herself. Every working girl is spectacularly unique, with individual interests and inclinations, which is what makes Nevada brothels so much fun — you never know who is going to light up your life, or what unexpected adventure your newfound sweetheart is going to take you on.

Attitude

OK, so here’s a tip for first-time legal brothel visitors that’s worth mentioning: If you visit us and you’re rude, belligerent, or insulting during the negotiation, you’re probably not going to get the best possible price for the services you desire. You should know that we are under no obligation to have an encounter with anyone. Just as a client is seeking the best possible companion to share a passionate rendezvous with, we working girls are seeking clients with whom we could truly connect — and start long-lasting romantic relationships with. So, be a gentleman when you visit a sex worker and you will be rewarded with not only a fair first-time price, but also with a lover that you can return to again and again, each encounter better than the last, and each investment paying off marvelously as your love life is enhanced tremendously.

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In short, you can see that there’s not a set number when it comes to someone’s sexual fantasy. In my experience every client is unique and every relationship is special. What we offer isn’t the equivalent of rotating the tires on your car, visiting your physician for a checkup, or steam-cleaning your carpets. We’re the secret lovers our clients confide in — the custodians of their deepest, most coveted desires. We provide unconditional affection, nonjudgmental companionship, and intense sex. The price for such life experiences is as varied and as particular as the men (and women) who crave them.

Roxanne Price

Roxanne Price

Lovely and curvaceous, Roxanne Price is an elite courtesan who prides herself on providing the “authentic girlfriend experience.” An empathetic woman with a genuine sensitivity to her client’s sexual needs, Roxanne provides transformative erotic experiences to men from all walks of life.

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Nevada Brothels — Three Common Questions

Nevada brothels are sometimes a bit of an enigma — there’s not a ton of information on them available! Many folks have questions. How does this work? How much does sex cost? etc. I’m Alice Little, a legal sex worker at Dennis Hof’s Sagebrush Ranch in Northern Nevada near Reno. As an experienced working girl, I’ve received countless emails with dozens of questions. I’ve gone through and selected the three most commonly asked questions, and answered them for you in the video below! While the video covers the basics, theres so much more to learn! Do feel free to email me personally with any questions you have. Who knows — they may be featured in my next video segment! 

Alice Little

Alice Little

Alice Little is a 4’8” red-headed cutie with a super-fit, all-natural body -- but don’t let her small stature deceive you. This friendly firebox is a pocket-sized sexual powerhouse with unparalleled lovemaking skills. A part-time girlfriend coveted by both men and women, Alice will make you feel right at home at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch.

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What Makes a Great Brothel Owner?

Welcome to prostitution politics of 2017 in the USA! Despite the fact that brothels have been legal in the majority of Nevada’s counties since 1971, prostitution is still criminalized in the rest of the United States. Academics and activists have argued for decades over a woman’s right to her own body; most notably the “feminist sex wars” of the late 1970s/late 1980s. While second-wave feminists referred to sex work as “paid rape,” sex workers and sex-positive feminists demanded that prostitution be respected as a labor. Fast forward 40 years to today — prostitution is legal or decriminalized in much of the developed world…but still not in the USA. Even here in Nevada, the land of gambling, casinos, and bordellos, assemblywomen Jill Tolles (R-Reno) attempted (and failed) to pass a bill (AB-260) to open a “John School” earlier this year for men arrested for purchasing sex illegally. These programs believe that by “educating” (shaming) clients about the (unsubstantiated) inherent violence against women in prostitution, men will magically lose the desire to pay for sex. These programs currently exist in over 50 cities in the US. Despite the displeasure of those who refuse to acknowledge sex workers (and prostitution researchers) such as myself, sex is being sold in legal bordellos across Nevada — and the handful of people who own these controversial sex palaces have their hands full.

So, what does it take to be a successful brothel owner in 2017? How does an owner of a stigmatized business navigate the politics around prostitution, if at all? How should an owner adapt to changes in technology & media, as well as changing mores about sexuality and gender?

Christana Parreira
Christana Parreira, sex worker, activist, and PhD student

1. A good brothel owner gets involved

When you own a Nevada brothel, whether you like it or not, you’re smack in the middle of a heated political firestorm. One simply cannot be a good brothel owner in 2017 and ignore the debates around legalization of sex work as well as sex worker rights. If your own highly stigmatized business of vice is filled with women who are often marginalized by society, it is your duty to advocate for those women and above all, to amplify their voices by making them visible. It is your duty to fight against legislative bills that hurt us. Historically, Nevada brothel owners adhered to a “keep your head down and don’t make waves” philosophy, and some still do. Dennis Hof, owner of 7 Nevada brothels, is no stranger to media, politics, or making waves. In addition to the expected media appearances meant to promote the business, Hof takes every opportunity to speak up about the problem of criminalization, whether he is speaking at Oxford University or attempting to talk sense into Nancy Grace. Hof is without question the loudest and most prominent voice in the US regarding legalization of prostitution. He immediately set up a meeting to discuss the problems with assemblywoman Tolles’ “John School” bill. However, Tolles cancelled without explanation and never reached out to Hof, despite his 25 years as a brothel owner. I also reached out to her, but never heard back. It was disheartening that Tolles would not even entertain speaking to me, given that I have been conducting academic research on the legal brothels for over 3 years on topics including worker safety and client motivations for purchasing sex. Even more disheartening was the silence from every other Nevada brothel owner.

This past weekend I attended the Nye County Republicans monthly meeting with Hof; he spoke out against the recent tax increase imposed on brothel licenses, as well as other unnecessary abuses that big government inflicts on Nye County. He also introduced me to the group and I spoke to several members afterwards about my thoughts and experiences in the brothels, but this behavior is nothing new. Hof has always made a point of bringing sex workers to media and political events so that we can also be seen, heard, and integrated into the community.

Dennis Hof, Owner of seven Nevada brothels
Dennis Hof, Owner of seven Nevada brothels

2. A good brothel owner is accessible and transparent

Dennis is easily found in one of his 7 open bordellos almost any night of the week. We can text or email him if we are having a problem, and he encourages clients to do the same. He even put his actual cell phone number on DennisHof.com! I watched him answer a call from a stranger while we were out to lunch during his political campaign and I listened as he answered her questions. Afterwards, I remarked “you seriously answer these calls and answer everyone’s questions?” He did. Please, someone grant me that kind of patience.

Not only is he accessible to clients and employees, Hof opens his doors to academics. When I first moved to Nevada to conduct my research on the brothels, I had quite a few doors slammed in my face. I can’t say that I was all that surprised; who wants a researcher poking around their place of business? Apparently Dennis! Not only has Hof given me access to interview sex workers in all of his brothels, he also let in a team of researchers including myself, headed by Dr. Andrew Spivak and Dr. Barb Brents from the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, to administer anonymous surveys to clients. Thanks to the level of access he has allowed us, we have collected data from over 50 working girls and more than 500 clients; data that is being presented at conferences worldwide and adding to the scholarship on prostitution.

Christina Parriera, Sex Worker, Activist, and PhD Candidate
Christina Parreira, licensed Nevada working girl

3. A good brothel owner is inclusive and adapts his business as social norms change over time

As Hof has said of his establishments, “This ain’t your daddy’s old cathouse anymore!” He bought the Moonlite Bunny Ranch in the early 90s, and immediately took down the “Men Only” sign, got rid of the fixed price menu, and empowered the women to set their own rates. He also gave the women the choice to say no to a client — quite a change from the “boys club” mentality that permeated the brothels before Hof came to town. While several Nevada brothels still run on a “lockdown” system in which the women are not permitted to leave the brothel for weeks at a time, Hof allows us to come and go — like human beings. Even in 2017, there are brothels that do not permit women to leave without a chaperone.

A good brothel owner must keep up with the times. According to my sample of 53 sex workers across 5 of Hof’s ranches, 35% are Women of Color; more racial/ethnic diversity than previous samples of Nevada brothels. The ages of the women in Hof’s bordellos range from 18 to 50+ and all shapes, sizes, and sexual/gender orientations, including trans women, BBWs, and fetish workers. Dennis is right — this is not your daddy’s old cathouse, and as one of the women working in his ranches, I am quite thankful for that.

Christina Parreira

Christina Parreira

Christina Parreira, M.A., is a PhD student in the Department of Sociology at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. In addition to being an instructor and researcher, she is a proud legal Harlot.

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The Best Place to Cheat on Your Wife

Let’s face it, some married men cheat on their wives. It happens. Whether it be a result of an increasingly loveless marriage or due to a craving for a more sexually adventurous partner, the drive for sexual and emotional satisfaction will, nearly every time, supersede the desire to maintain fidelity.

I know this because I’m the “other woman.” I’m the irresistible temptress that a great many married men are discreetly visiting on a regular basis in order to satisfy desires that they can’t satiate at home. And you know what? Each and every one of these men are getting away with it!

Charlie Daze from Dennis Hof's Kit Kat Ranch near Reno, Nevada
Charlie Daze from Dennis Hof’s Kit Kat Ranch near Reno, Nevada

As a working girl at Dennis Hof’s Kit Kat Ranch, a legal brothel, I know firsthand that the most foolproof way of cheating on your wife — and getting away with it — is not to have an affair with a colleague at work or to join some dubious online community of want to be cheaters. The only approach to successfully execute a gratifying infidelity is to do it with a professional. Getting with a trustworthy prostitute is the surefire way to minimize your risk of being exposed as an adulterer, and there are no sex workers more trusted than the licensed courtesans of Nevada’s legal brothels.

I’m going to explain why having an affair at a legal brothel is ideal, but before I get into that I’d like to mention a couple of things regarding legal brothels and cheating on your spouse…

First, I’d like to say the the sex workers at Dennis Hof’s brothels are thoroughly nonjudgmental. We have seen it all and we know that there are a variety of reasons why a husband (or a wife) may choose to discreetly see someone other than their spouse to satisfy their needs. I’ve seen men who came to me for sensual comfort because their wives became ill or had surgical procedures that affected these women’s ability to perform sexually or negated their libido. I’ve seen other men who simply have a sexual proclivity that they feel their wife would consider strange, like a penchant for pegging or a foot fetish. I’ve also been with women who have visited me out of sexual desperation, because they were unable to achieve orgasm with their significant other. Regardless of the reason, we legal working girls always approach our clients’ needs with a great deal of compassion and zero judgment.

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Second, it should be said that many of the women at Nevada brothels, including me, service men, women, and couples. Sometimes, the best way to reinvigorate a sexually declining marriage is to add another participant into the mix. If you feel that your spouse may be open to inviting a proficient lover into your bed — someone who can teach you both a few tricks and inject a little naughty newness into your sex life — then by all means drop me a line. Sometimes the best way to have an affair is to include your wife or husband.

In any event, whatever your decide, do it in a legal, safe place like a licensed brothel. Here are just a few reasons why cheating with a licensed courtesan like me is the way to go. 

A beautiful stranger — the best choice for an affair

One of the primary reasons why someone gets caught cheating is because they decide to do it with someone they know. Common cheating scenarios like the “forbidden office romance” or the affair with “your wife’s best friend” happen every day — and, every day, they fail miserably. Why? Because you’re, to be crass, “shitting in your own backyard.” An affair has a greater chance of remaining private if it’s done with a stranger, someone who is not in your (or your wife’s) social circle. A legal brothel is an ideal place, as the bordello has a selection of diverse and beautiful strangers to choose from, each eager and enthusiastic to participate in your affair and become your part-time girlfriend.

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No “Fatal Attraction”

You had an affair. It’s over now. You got your rocks off and you’re ready to move on and continue your marriage. There’s only one small problem: the side girl isn’t ready for the dalliance to end, and she’s going to make your life a living hell. One of the best things about having an affair with a professional sex worker is that we are exceptionally discreet and we never get personally involved in our clients’ lives. Nevada brothels welcome over 400,000 customers annually and there has never been a case of a licensed sex worker exposing a client. We respect your privacy, your personal life, and your reputation. We relieve the stress in your life, not cause it.

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Endless possibilities, zero monotony

A potential drawback to taking on an illicit lover is that you may eventually become bored with your concubine and fall into the same cycle of sexual monotony with your mistress as you did with your wife. Thankfully, because legal brothels offer a wide variety of sexual partners with a wide variety of sexual skills, there is a lifetime’s worth of carnal, sensual, and emotional stimulation available at a brothel. Visiting a brothel for your extramarital needs means never being unfulfilled again. A legal, safe, discreet and thoroughly trustworthy Nevada brothel is your ticket to infinite pleasure and unending gratification. Let me and my colleagues be your best kept secret…

Charlie Daze

Charlie Daze

A fearlessly seductive Italian knockout, Charlie Daze will bedazzle you with her sensual savoir-faire. She is available for booking at Dennis Hof's Kit Kat brothel near Reno, Nevada.

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My Second Act: Becoming a Legal Prostitute in my 50’s

When people walk into the Love Ranch North and see me in a lineup several things go through their minds: “there is the girl next door”, “oh wow the MILF from my teenage years”, and “what is a nice girl like that doing here?” But what they do not know is how I came to be here and what my life was before. Until now, as I give a quick break down of how I am having the best time of my life, after 50, working as a legal prostitute.

Most people knew me as an accounting manager who worked for over twenty years in the healthcare industry. They might even know me as a mother who has raised her children, shuttling them between music lessons, soccer, and any other activity they wanted to do. Or perhaps the Navy brat, living at bases all around the country. I grew up to be the wife who always put my needs after the needs of my husband and family. Others knew me as a hard-working mom who earned three degrees at night while raising children, keeping house, cooking dinners, and pursuing a full time demanding career.

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Catrina Costa started a new chapter at Dennis Hof’s Love Ranch in her 50’s

Then at forty-two, children grown and divorced, I decided to do something for myself and started down a new path exploring facets of life that I had been putting off or had set aside.

The path first took me to California where I discovered the Swinging Lifestyle. During my years as a swinger I learned a number of things about myself. I learned I truly enjoyed sex! No really, who knew it would take over forty years to discover how much I enjoyed sex — and to have my first orgasm! After my first gang bang, just weeks after my first threesome, I learned I not only love sex, but I love dick! I also found out I am multi-orgasmic and could even, under the right circumstances, squirt! (They used to joke that it took six guys to make me squirt!) I learned how to pleasure men and women, while thoroughly enjoying the experience myself. For a few years I hosted swinging parties, both couples and gang bang parties. I even developed a distinct blowjob technique… which I was later told was a “Texas Tongue Twirl”.

Swinging led me to BDSM (Bondage-Domination-Submission), where I learned that, while I am a natural submissive, I also thoroughly enjoy being a Domme, making me a “Switch.” I found I can cum, just from being spanked. I found that I really get off on tying someone up and pushing their boundaries. I enjoy having my own boundaries pushed and pushing those of my partner. This was something I had never heard of, in my previous life, but feel very comfortable in and enjoy to the point of reaching euphoria.

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During my time as a swinger, I answered an ad for an adult film and was accepted. Before I knew it, they were flying me to Florida for a two-day shoot. My first film was the boy next door’s mother’s best friend. (Poor guy, I continued playing with him when the camera was off and he popped early. He had a hard time performing in the next scene.) The second day, I got to tie up the boy I shot with, before he took me anally on camera. I’ve been published in the Netherlands, in magazine and DVD in the states. If any of you have seen my DVD’s, let me just state, for the record, I am a MILF (“Mother I would Like to Fuck”) not a GILF (“Granny I would Like to Fuck”) as the title of my DVD indicates.

Then, at age 51, I saw that the Love Ranch North, one of Dennis Hof’s famous family of brothels was hiring. On a lark, I applied. None of the other brothels appeared to accept MILF’s my age, they like their girls to be unexperienced 20’somethings. True, that can be fun, but a MILF like me brings so much more to the table! As a result, I never thought I would be accepted. Yet, here I am! Having the time of my life! Best thing about it is I have never felt younger, and I am proof that it is never too late for a new adventure.

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As a, previous, Housewife, I learned that marriage does not always ensure sex. And even if it does, it is often unsatisfying. While married, my husband’s idea of sex was to wake me up in the middle of the night, spin me around and enter me… dry, not ready, not even awake. And he was done before I even knew what had happened. I didn’t know any better, I thought that was all there was. Wham, bam, … but not “thank you ma- am”. I learned that sometimes someone outside, someone new, is the only way to satisfy the needs everyone has. I’ve since learned that sometimes one just needs new inspiration, new techniques, that one can take back to their marriage to reignite that special spark. As a courtesan, I’m trained to help in that area.

As a Swinger, I learned many advanced sexual techniques. Learned those from a group that experience more sex, and more variety in sex, than any other group in the population. I learned about different fetishes and different needs – but, more importantly, I learned how to satisfy those needs. I also learned how to have sex with a couple, sex without entanglement, sex that enhances their relationship. I learned that sex is a natural thing, and that everyone needs it, craves it, and desires it. It is also fun and exhilarating.

As a Switch, I learned how a little pain can stimulate, how controlling another and pushing boundaries can enhance sex. How freeing it can be to have another take total control. I learned that giving up control to another is the most empowering thing that anyone can do. Letting go and just giving in to the feelings of a little pain is hypnotic.

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As a Porn Star, I learned even more advanced sexual techniques. I learned how to increase… or delay, orgasm. Delaying an orgasm can cause a bigger more intense orgasm when it is finally allowed to happen. Also, learning to orgasm on command was amazing too.

As a Courtesan, I’ve learned how to concentrate on the needs of my sexual partner. How to really focus on what they want and need. I have learned that sometimes those needs are not physical but simply emotional and just the need to have someone to listen to them. Someone to have a conversation with. Because I am a MILF I have the ability to have a conversation that includes life-long learning and experience. I have learned to instruct both men and women on how to please their partners even if it is a “wham, bam, thank you ma-am” because time is short. But I have also learned so many new techniques on giving long lasting pleasure to my partner, the things I learned in the past have been improved upon through my experience here as a courtesan. My primary focus is on making sure my clients thoroughly enjoy their time with me, that they leave fulfilled. I know what it feels like to be “of a certain age” and sexually unfulfilled — So, I pull out all of the stops and give 150% of myself to make sure that every single adventure is the best. As a Housewife, I was just there. As a Swinger, my pleasure was as much, if not more so, important as theirs. As a Porn Star, the camera ruled – its needs outweighed any others. As a Courtesan, your needs are my primary concern. However, as a Courtesan, I am having the best sex of my life. The connections with my clients are exciting and are driving my pleasure to new heights. Want to know a secret? I have more fulfilling sex as a Courtesan than I have ever had in my life. So, if I am having the best most fulfilling sex ever, don’t you think you should be too?

Yes, I am having the best time of my life, after 50, as a legal prostitute.

Catrina Costa

Catrina Costa

A premier courtesan at Dennis Hof's Love Ranch, Catrina Costa is a porn star and MILF extraordinaire who is well known for her sophisticated yet naughty companionship.

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Doughnuts to Dollars: Why I became a Legal Prostitute

A few months ago, I had a revelation that changed my life. Like many other 21-year-old girls of my generation are inclined to do, I hooked-up with a guy via Tinder, had a few drinks, and went back to my place to have some fun. After we made love, my date was lying next to me speechless for a prolonged period. When I asked him why he was so silent, he replied “That was the best sex I ever had. You’re amazing!”

That wasn’t the first time a man said that to me.

Since graduating high school, I was living in North Carolina and working the counter for a popular coffee and doughnut franchise. Like a lot of millennials, I found myself floundering and often bored. I was caught up in the cycle of existing, as opposed to pursuing any type of dream or life goal, and I was living for the fleeting moments of passion and excitement that temporarily disrupted the tedium of my week. I knew in my heart that I couldn’t endure this lifestyle for much longer, but I couldn’t figure out how to assert myself and really make a change for the better.

But that night, lying in bed with my very satisfied lover, everything clicked. I had a moment of absolute clarity and confidence when I knew exactly who I was and what I wanted. Within a week, I had left my doughnut job and booked a flight to Nevada. I was on my way to Dennis Hof’s Alien Cathouse brothel outside of Las Vegas, and I was about to begin a new life as a legal sex worker. That’s right, a prostitute — People are going to pay me to have sex with them! Here are a few reasons why I decided that this lifestyle was the right choice for me, and why I was right…

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21 year old Bianca Ferraz from Dennis Hof’s Alien Cathouse near Las Vegas

I Love Sex (…like, a lot!)

When you’re an adolescent, it’s not that easy to figure out what “average” is. It wasn’t until I was nearly in High School when I learned, through conversations with the other girls, that I was unusually fascinated with sex. I masturbated multiple times a day, flirted profusely with boys my age and older men, and took every possible opportunity to explore my budding sexuality – and, as a young, brown-eyed Latina who was developing quite a voluptuous figure, I had lots of opportunities to explore.

I realized that I was the only girl in my group of friends that wasn’t a virgin, and it became clear to me that I was very different from my peers when it came to sex. For me, sex was not only an exciting and mysterious new part of becoming a young adult, but also a serious interest. While the burgeoning artists and mathematicians in my class were discovering their calling, I was (unknowingly) discovering my zeal for receiving and giving physical pleasure. I loved learning how to make myself feel good when I touched myself a certain way, and I loved getting my growing number of sexual partners off.

Of course, aside from the typical rumors that occasionally circulated though school (“Did you hear about what Bianca did with Ricardo last night after the game?”), I mostly kept to myself when it came to my enthusiasm for sex. The blossoming musicians and scientists had clubs and school groups they could join in order to share their craft with like-minded individuals, but my extracurricular adventures were less “official.”

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Bianca Ferraz is a sexually proficient lover

I’m (Really) Good at Sex

When you love something, and you do it a lot, you eventually develop a certain amount of expertise at it. Practice makes perfect— and I practiced as often as possible. Blow jobs, fucking, group sex – these are activities that actually became a regular part of my day as a high school student. Car sex on the way to school in the morning with whoever my current boyfriend was (I had lots of boyfriends growing up), taking on a close friend and his older brother before playing video games after school, even slipping away during a sleepover to seduce my girlfriend’s recently divorced father – these innumerable erotic encounters served to build my skills as a professional lover. While it actually never occurred to me at the time to blatantly take money in exchange for sex, I found that my lovers would go out of their way to do things for me. Whether it be fixing my car or buying me something that I may have let slip that I desired, my sex partners seemed to sincerely appreciate how I made them feel when they were with me. I knew that I had something that many people desperately needed in their lives, and when I gave it to them they were exceedingly grateful for it.

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Hot young Latina Bianca Ferraz

Sex Work Pays Better than Dunkin’ Donuts

There’s a cliché that people use a lot: “Do what you love and the money will follow.” It sounds corny, but it’s actually kind of true. When I was working at the doughnut shop, I wasn’t loving what I was doing. It was a means to an end and a way to (just barely) pay the bills. I didn’t really have a knack for food service and I had no foreseeable future in the fried dough industry.

But that crucial night, when I showed yet another person the sexual apex of their life, I saw a professional future for myself. When my date applauded my prowess that evening, as I was at the peak of my frustration with my humdrum life, I decided that I was going to sell my sexual talents and never look back. It was the smartest decision I’ve made to date.

Since arriving at the brothel, in less than three weeks, I’ve made more money than I’ve made in the last two years selling baked goods – and I enjoyed every last second doing what I did in order to make that money. I followed my instincts and stayed true to who I am — and like the cliché goes, the money followed. This is the beginning of something exciting for this naughty girl, and I can’t wait to go to work and discover the amazing lovers I’m going to meet today!

Bianca Bardot

Bianca Bardot

21 year old Bianca Bardot is a sexually charged Latina lover and featured working girl at Dennis Hof's Alien Cathouse near Las Vegas, Nevada.

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