“Madam On The Menu” Prostitution’s Positive Impact On My Sexuality

My formative sexuality was forged after the “free love” movement changed the rules of romantic engagement.  Some people say, “You can’t miss what you never had.”  In a way, that’s true.  We accept the world as it’s presented to us without too much questioning.  The world presented to me encouraged sexual experimentation and shunned the “uptight”.   Numerous boys skipped the whole dinner and a movie starter dates and went straight to a flask of booze and “This spot looks like a good place to park.” When I committed to marriage, my fiancé gave me an ultimatum; I had to take other partners and bring women into our bed, before he would sign on the dotted line. He explained, “I am emotionally monogamous but sexually plural.”  So cutting edge!  From that point on, I was an active swinger and was routinely expected to be his pussy-bait or “take it for the team” when there was a woman he wanted to fuck.  I became cynical about men and sexually jaded.  Copulation became perfunctory.  I’m positive that, because of my perceptions, I was a terrible lover.

Flash forward to my decision to work in a brothel.  I’d seen made for TV shows depicting heartless businessmen preying on sobbing teenagers.  I’d seen news stories about politicians & ministers losing their careers over encounters with street walkers.  I’d seen movies depicting prostitutes as low functioning victims of society.  The few times I saw women depicted in art as successful sex workers, they also were sociopaths & criminals. I really had no idea what a brothel would be like but I faintly imagined it was something like a dairy, only full of men, & it would be my job to milk them, one after the other after the other….into infinity.   

Sonja is the madam of Dennis Hof’s Love Ranch South near Las Vegas, Nevada

The reality was so much sweeter than anything I could even imagine.  First, the line-up.  What looks impersonal to a lot of men is a sweet compliment to a woman.  He is paying so he absolutely gets what he wants.  He has all these ladies to choose from, and he chooses ME.  Even when we didn’t come to an agreement, the fact that I was favorited was a slow working aphrodisiac that stayed with me.   The negotiations were terrifying at first.  In swinging, there is an undercurrent of social manipulation as a man pretends to be interested in you in hopes you’ll decide to bed him.  In the brothel, it’s all upfront.  He comes right out and says what his fantasies are and I accept or reject that.  I come right out and tell him the value I put on myself and that experience.  He comes right out and accepts or rejects that.  When we come to an agreement that works for us both, there is no pretense.  And the fact that this man treasured an experience with me so much that he made such a generous offering is irresistibly charming…and yes, romantic.   That was the thing I’d missed out on my entire life.  The ritual of making an offering to a lady you are sweet on.  The ritual of a lady accepting those gifts & picking and choosing suitors.  When that happened it cracked me open and the hardness fell away. The image I had of men and their motivations was changed forever.  They were not sexually predatorily Neanderthals, capable of only thinking with their “little heads”.  They were boys in grown up bodies.  Boys who needed love and comfort, who needed the balance of a woman in their life, and who were starving for TLC and intimate attention.  In spite of mass media’s constant depiction of men as being more shallow than women, I’ve actually concluded that they are (on the whole) the most romantic & sensitive of the sexes.

It’s actually pretty easy to physically stimulate a man to orgasm.  Women are more complicated, and I was no exception.   The testosterone level in most men creates a lot of their foreplay via a constant stream of sexual thoughts.  The opposite is true for women who tend to have brains more prone to overthinking.  We are vulnerable to pleasure inhibiting thoughts and beliefs.  The body may be willing but the female brain can be a relentless cock blocker.   That’s when the second brothel epiphany freed my mind so I could become multi-orgasmic. 

Remember that milking machine expectation I had?  Well imagine my surprise when I learned that over 90% of the men who chose to be with me,  and who were paying to get whatever gave them pleasure, wanted MY pleasure over their own.  I could not have believed any man from the swinger lifestyle who said that.  I would assume it was a line to get me into bed.  But THESE men were paying for what they wanted.  There were no games being played, and no ruses.  THESE men I believed, as one after the other made themselves vulnerable in my arms and got “helper’s highs” every time they evoked a storm of pleasure from me.   My cynicism about men evaporated and my cock blocking mind got out of my body’s way.   It became easy for me to trust, to let myself go, & to enjoy the ministrations of my lovers.  Because I didn’t have to struggle against interfering thoughts, I was able to cum more easily & often.   Those orgasms have powered my transformation.  Copulation has evolved to lovemaking and my interactions are almost always instantly intimate now.  My experiences working in a brothel have truly been life expanding.  

Sonja

Sonja

Author, ordained minister, porn star, Reiki Master, nudist, post-humanist, and former school teacher -- experienced "sex warrior" Sonja is the current madam at Dennis Hof's Love Ranch South near Las Vegas, Nevada.

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Visiting a Legal Sex Worker for the First Time

Do you want to visit a Nevada brothel but don’t know where to begin? Feeling nervous because there can be a lot of unknowns? Fear not! I am going to provide you with a brief beginner’s guide on how to start planning your first brothel trip! Here you will learn the steps on how to become a client of mine, or any other amazing lady at the Bunny RanchLove RanchKit Kat Ranch, or Sagebrush Ranch – all legal brothels that are absolutely discreet, safe, healthy, and a lot of fun! It’s really quite simple and much easier than you might think… 

Ruby Rae from Dennis Hof’s Love Ranch near Reno, Nevada
Decide whether you want to see a legal provider or an illegal provider

Here are some important reasons why coming to a legal Nevada brothel is a better option than seeing an unlicensed, illegal prostitute. One, it’s legal! For those of you who don’t want to worry or stress about getting caught by law enforcement, whether it be because of a sting operation, or the wrong information getting in the hands of law enforcement, a legal brothel is the best way to ensure that definitely will not happen. Two, the ladies here are tested for STIs (sexually transmitted infections) and HIV on a regular basis and we must have a clean bill of health in order to work, per state law. We are also required by law to use condoms during oral and intercourse activities. Third, you will be coming to a safe environment. No sneaking around in hotel rooms, or having a lady’s pimp waiting inside the room, or outside of the door. You are entering a relaxing and safe environment from the moment you park your car.

Determine your needs, wants, and desires

Before diving into this world of lust, intimacy, and sexual pleasure, it’s always best to pinpoint the “why” you want to come to a brothel in the first place! Are you wanting to fulfill a sexual need or desire that you may not be getting in your personal life, whether from your significant other, or from being single? Are you looking for intimacy and a deep connection with your lady of choice? Do you want to check something off your bucket list, such as a threesome? Do you just want to explore your sexuality more and maybe learn your likes and dislikes? Your needs and wants can expand over multiple areas and that’s okay – you can always come back for more after your first visit! But knowing “why” you want to come to a brothel will make it much easier to choose lady or ladies to see while you’re here.

 Use online resources to research the lovely ladies

Make sure to peruse the websites of the individual ranches to see what ladies are available and whose photos visually stimulate you or grab your attention, AND what bios stimulate your mind! You can find my bio here! Who are you attracted to? Does she seem to offer the kind of experience you are looking for, whether that be Girlfriend Experience (more sensual, intimate, and a longer date), or Porn Star Experience (a little more wild and hardcore experience), or any specific interests such as roleplay, fetish, etc? Or maybe you’re looking for a two-girl party where you pick two girls to play with each other and you? Some ladies are also very skilled in providing services for couples, if you are looking to bring your significant other along. Either way, make sure to spend some time looking through the variety of ladies and choosing a few that you think would best suit your needs and desires. You can also sign up for our message board where us ladies spend our time advertising and conversing with you all! You can really get a feel for a lady’s personality and vibe from exploring her posts, responses, and photos there as well.

Reach out to your dream girl, or multiple dream girls! Then make a choice!

After your period fun “research”, reach out to your lady or ladies of choice! Strike up a conversation! Most ladies prefer email as a way of correspondence, but you can always ask to make sure. Let her know what kind of experience you’re wanting and see if that’s something she would be able to deliver. Then think about what date you would like to set up an appointment with her and see if she’s available. Or, if you’d like to forgo the appointment route, you can always just show up at your chosen brothel (or multiple brothels!) and request a lineup or request a certain lady to meet you at the bar if she’s available. However, I always suggest setting up an appointment with your dream girl so you are guaranteed to meet her and that she’s waiting for you, and only you. 

Arrive at the brothel and negotiate a price and experience

Once you arrive at the brothel and are with your chosen lady, or ladies, you will then go to her room to negotiate the price for your experience. Due to Nevada law, us ladies are not allowed to quote or discuss pricing off of brothel property. That means all negotiations have to be done once you get here in our suites. But fear not! Most of us will work with any reasonable budget and our goal is to make it work! My best advice on this front is to determine what is most comfortable for you and your personal finances and we will try our best to work within your means. If you are looking for an experience that is more in depth, more time, or more activities such as an outdate or overnight, then that will take a more generous budget. Many ladies offer specials or packages that will make your budget go further, so don’t be shy to ask about this when you arrive. Just relax and enjoy your sex vacation! We are all very nice and just want to make this a great time with you! 

Experience pure bliss

Now comes the part you’ve been waiting, dreaming, envisoning, and lusting about….so just sit back and enjoy the ride!

Ruby Rae

Ruby Rae

Graduate student and luxury companion Ruby Rae is a lovely and sophisticated young woman with a passion for film, yoga, reading, and traveling. Her favorite type of encounter is one that includes dinner, dessert, and time beneath the sheets.

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Sugar Dating: Let’s Stop Sugar-Coating Prostitution

Is being a sugar baby on a sugar dating site the same as being a prostitute? The short and most honest answer is absolutely, yes. Some sugar babies might circumvent this fact by saying that they are merely compensated for their time and companionship and not sex. I know this is true because in the past I, too, have confidently argued the same.

I am a sex worker, and now a legal prostitute at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch in Mound House, Nevada. Formerly, however, I have identified as a “sugar baby,” and I was a highly successful one at that. Through my sugar lifestyle, I could pay for college and further studies, travel the world and experience luxuries. I embodied and reveled in being a spoiled-rotten sugar baby, and thus I do not make my claim from ignorance but rather from several years of experience.

Yes, there are some sugar relationships that are not based upon sex; the same is true for some relationships with legal prostitutes and their clients. As legal prostitutes, all things that we do, or do not do, are declared and negotiated. As a legal prostitute, I have been paid to share in an innocuous bubble bath session with a man, and then take a nap—no sex, just “time and companionship.” We are not always compensated for sex, just like sugar babies are not. Thankfully, my sugar experiences were mostly all positive but that is not a presumption that I am at all smarter, nor necessarily took better precautions, than others with unfortunate experiences; I was just lucky.

Bobbi Besos from Dennis Hof’s Moonlite Bunny Ranch

While I am grateful and privileged to have had many positive sugar experiences, the unfortunate reality is that not all aspiring sugar babies do. Negative sugaring-related scenarios such as the tragic death of murdered Google executive Forrest Hayes seem rare, but only because the disheartening experiences many sugar daddies and sugar babies have had are often not publicized. Few people are as brave as my Bunny Ranch colleague Alex, who revealed her sugar-dating horror story this past September. 

Online platforms such as Seeking Arrangement, which host millions of eager sugar babies and sugar daddies/mommies, are simply pimping schemes that admit no responsibility for their users’ safety. The legal distinctions that separate sugar babies and illegal prostitutes are flimsy, and sugar websites get away with offering what they do by promoting the fantasy that sugaring is so entirely different from prostitution when it is exactly that—prostitution. Further, the way such websites market their quasi-innocence is the same way an illegal escorting service or company works: if the “Daddy” takes the “baby” on a “date” for an “agreed upon” “allowance”, then whatever “adult activities” that occur afterwards in the bedroom between consenting adults is their own business—which is indeed true. My intent is not at all to judge what is normal and natural for us all. EVERYBODY has sex, and someone is always paying for it in some way. I get it; sugaring is an enticing route for young women, particularly students like me, and I have done it. The distinct problem with sugar websites is that they overtly promote a farce and take no responsibility when things go awry, consequently rendering all parties involved infinitely vulnerable.

Bobbi Besos was formerly a sugar baby on sugar dating websites

Perhaps the reason why sugar dating websites are so popular is because people are more comfortable with euphemistic terms such as “sugar” instead of “transaction,” and “sugar baby” instead of “prostitute.” The legal Nevada brothel system, conversely, is designed for everybody’s safety: sex workers are tested weekly for diseases, and must identify as legal prostitutes and obtain a sheriff’s card within their working county. Equally, legal prostitutes work in a safe environment and may choose to turn away absolutely any client they do not wish to entertain. Everything is unequivocally transparent for both legal sex workers and clients. Legal prostitution—besides being legal—is structured, regulated, and the wholly empowering option for young women and their clients, and keeps us all safer.

Maybe the phenomenon of sugar dating speaks to a larger issue about society’s lack of acceptance of prostitution, an inevitable social situation that permeates every city in the world and will never go away. Because prostitution is scorned by the status quo, despite being ubiquitous, it allows savvy but morally questionable business persons to take advantage of ways to sugar-coat the unlawful sex industry and shrewdly dodge law enforcement. If people just accepted sex-for-money as a social norm, prostitution would be legal everywhere in the USA and brothels wouldn’t be limited to the rural areas of Nevada — and there would be no need for sugar dating. 

When I realized and accepted the truth of exactly what I was doing, I delighted in my own self-honesty and self-discovery and admitted to myself exactly who I am: an intelligent, well-travelled, and well-educated young woman who happens to work as a prostitute. I decided my safety is paramount. Regarding my work, I chose to proceed in a legal and safe direction to continue to be successful. I am much happier working legally in a Nevada brothel than navigating the grey sugar world. Most importantly, I no longer lie to myself and I take greater pride in everything I do and represent, with a complete understanding of myself, my goals, and the clients I see.

Bobbi Besos

Bobbi Besos

University of Nevada, Reno graduate student Bobbi Besos is a self-described "natural nymphomaniac." A highly coveted VIP companion sought after by men, women, and couples, Bobbi is currently taking bookings as a premier companion at Dennis Hof's Moonlite Bunny Ranch near Reno, Nevada.

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Your First Brothel Visit — A Few Things to Know

Welcome to America’s Red Light District! If you’re someone who is visiting a legal brothel for the first time, it would be my pleasure to explain how it all works! To start with- we aren’t just one brothel, but several neighboring establishments throughout Nevada, all owned by respected sex entrepreneur Dennis Hof. This way, you have not just a wide selection of ladies, but a vast choice of facilities too! We have the Moonlite Bunny Ranch, the Sagebrush Ranch, the Kit Kat Ranch, and the Love Ranch. Down south near Las Vegas we have the Love Ranch South and the Alien Cathouse. Each location has its own unique decor, themed rooms, and amenities.

Alice Little is one of the hundreds of legal prostitutes available at America’s Red Light District…

We’re incredibly proud to offer a diverse group of ladies from around the world. With hundreds of licensed and legal courtesans available, you will have no problems finding your perfect match! We have ladies that specialize in a wide range of activities: Couples, Virgins, The Girlfriend Experience, and BDSM are all common party requests that our ladies can fulfill with ease. From fetish to fantasy- we’ve got it all! This is your chance to cut loose, fulfill some bucket list items, and have a new sexual encounter. Our ladies are licensed professionals- as part of the process to be employed at the ranch, we must visit the doctor each week, to ensure that we are free from any and all sexually transmitted diseases. All available ladies must be cleared by the doctor as std/sti-free before being allowed to work. Additionally we must submit our information to a background check in order to receive our legal license to work. You can relax, knowing that our ladies are healthy, safe, and eager to spend time with you!

The Girlfriend Experience, or GFE, is a romantic rendezvous with a sex worker in which the courtesan provides companionship on a deeper, emotionally intimate level. Often, the client and courtesan get to know one another through dating and extended vacationing throughout Nevada.

When you first enter one of our brothels, you’ll be greeted by a Line Up. This is your opportunity to see the currently available ladies, and choose one to spend time with! From there, you’ll get a tour of the location so you can see all the fun amenities available for our pleasure. Did you know that you can mix and match ladies from different ranches? You can always create a custom threesome by choosing 2 ladies from different locations to party together in your location of choice! We have made it comfortable and easy for you to explore, enjoy, and indulge. Be sure to ask your lady about threesome options while on your tour! The final stop on your tour will be the ladies bedroom. Each lady has a personal room, which she is able to decorate to suit her own style. You’ll get a great sense of the girls personality based on her room decor.

A Line Up at a brothel is when all of the available courtesans literally line up in front of a customer, so that the potential client can choose the lady that he or she would like to speak with.

The next step is the Negotiation. Since all of us ladies are independent contractors, you won’t find a list of prices. Instead you’ll get to have a conversation with the lady in regards to the services you’re interested in, how long you’d like to spend with the lady, etc. The sky is the limit! Interested in having a snow bunny to go skiing in Tahoe with? We can talk about an out date and venture off the property together for some recreational fun. Prefer to fall asleep with company, and wake up to breakfast and a blowjob in bed? Done. Each encounter is different, bespoke to your desires. One element to the negotiation to keep in mind is the D.C., or “dick check.” During the D.C., the lady will inspect your genitals to ensure that you’re healthy and ready to play! Once you’ve come to an agreement and passed the D.C., you’ll then head to our booking office.

The booking office is where all financial transactions are handled. We use a discrete billing system out of respect for your privacy. Cash, Debit, and Credit are all available options. Each location also has an ATM available if needed! Your information will be protected and kept secure, so you can focus on all the fun you’re going to have! The lady will also get sheets for the bed, and towels for the shower. After that, you’re off on an adventure! Feel free to stop at the bar on the way back to the bedroom to pick up a cold beverage to enjoy.

A “party” is an all-encompassing term that describes a negotiated experience shared by client and courtesan.

The Moonlite Bunny Ranch and it’s sister locations are the perfect place for an all-American sex vacation. It’s legal, safe, and incredibly fun! We invite you to join us for your first adventure, and make memories with us that will last a lifetime. We do not discriminate based on gender, race, age, or sexual experience. Our goal is to make all of our guests feel welcome and comfortable in our home. After your party, please feel free to relax in the parlor and mingle with the ladies. Throughout the week we have various activities you can participate in, such as our famous karaoke night! Be sure to check our message boards for upcoming events and parties. We look forward to having you as our guest, and helping to fulfill your desires!

Alice Little

Alice Little

Alice Little is a 4’8” red-headed cutie with a super-fit, all-natural body -- but don’t let her small stature deceive you. This friendly firebox is a pocket-sized sexual powerhouse with unparalleled lovemaking skills. A part-time girlfriend coveted by both men and women, Alice will make you feel right at home at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch.

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To Faithful Men Who Chose Monogamy, But Not Celibacy

She’s the love of your life. She’s beautiful, and you always want her. But, lately, something has been missing… As much as you’d like to fulfill all your intimate desires with only her, and as much as she’d love to reciprocate, it’s just not possible right now. You’ve tried everything, and it’s not working. A part of you is slowly suffocating; you signed up for monogamy, not celibacy.

The physical repression has begun to take a toll on the rest of your relationship and your ability to care for her. You still have every intention to stay by her side to the very end, just as you always vowed, but you know that if you don’t start taking care of yourself, you won’t be able to continue being the partner she deserves. If only there were some way to seek the relief and comfort that you need to stay strong and supportive for her when she needs it most…

Amelia Heart from Dennis Hof’s Kit Kat Ranch near Reno, Nevada

I’ve recently encountered several clients who are happily married, in love and lust with their spouses, but, due to physical, neurological, or mental health limitations, their wives are unable to continue intimacy at the level they desire (if at all). Some prognoses are only temporary, while others may be permanent or terminal. These clients find that the inability to continue to express themselves in intimate ways leads to a core part of themselves becoming deprived, which is damaging the relationship and inhibits their ability to live up to what they promised as a faithful spouse.

I’d personally like to commend those who dig deep to consider what they were really committing to when it came to choosing to love and support one person for the rest of their lives — those who can think about what it means to “put your own oxygen mask on first” in order to take care of another. We all have needs as human beings, and sometimes truly caring for someone else means rethinking superficial constraints and choosing to transcend the physical boundaries that were enacted under different circumstances, when there were no limits on fulfilling intimate desires between partners.

I have to express great admiration for those clients who have reached out under these circumstances, because it goes against a lot of traditional understanding of what it means to be married and faithful to one’s partner. But, when intimacy isn’t possible with the one you love most in the world, the psychological devastation of denying that part of yourself altogether can undermine all other efforts to care for them.

Fortunately, a solution exists: we, the courtesans at the legal brothels in Nevada, are experienced in surrogate intimacy and can help to bridge this gap. We are here for emotional support, physical closeness, and friendship through these difficult times. While what sets us apart from other platonic support structures is the physical connection we provide, the psychological side effects of reconnecting with this part of oneself can be even more profound. One recent client stated to me in a private message, quoted with his permission:

“Within hours of calling the Bunny Ranch to book that first party […], I experienced a change in attitude, outlook, and the way I interacted with my family and friends. That is, just knowing relief was on the way precipitated a profoundly positive change, a few weeks ahead of my actually being at the ranches.”

If you are struggling with the challenges of being in a loving, committed relationship that no longer provides an outlet for sexual release, I invite you to consider the opportunity to find that outlet here in a safe, discreet way that supports your desire to care for your partner in all other ways. Remind yourself what it was like to experience all the physical pleasures; I promise I won’t take offense if you find yourself thinking about her the whole time you are with me. In fact, I hope that you do.

Amelia Heart

Amelia Heart

A slender, all-natural brunette, Amelia Heart is a confident, compassionate, and open-minded woman seeking to share all the vitality and spirit of life, of which sensuality and sexuality are such important components. She is currently seeing clients at Dennis Hof's Kit Kat brothel near Reno, Nevada.

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 The Risky Business of Sugar Dating Websites

I was fairly new to the sex industry when I started at the Bunny Ranch in 2010. I had worked as a webcam model for about a year before working up the nerve to email Madam Suzette, the legal brothel’s general manager, and do my first tour as a licensed sex worker. Webcam model being a clever euphemism for “girl who will get naked and do what you ask of her” on the internet. That’s the thing about euphemisms; they’re used to soften a term that would generally be considered embarrassing or harsh. There are a lot of euphemisms for prostitutes: call girl, courtesan, working girl, escort, etc. Even though it may be a controversial position to take, I’d add another term to that list: sugar baby.

I spent over four years at the Bunny Ranch before I decided to sign up on a popular sugar dating website. Although I loved working at the ranch, I found it increasingly difficult to explain the long periods of time that I was spending away from my home in the Midwest. The idea of maintaining a good income locally while continuing to work in an ostensibly legal manner appealed to me. My work as a legal prostitute caused me to approach the sugar baby game with a skeptical but open mind. I’m a girl who likes her research so I read a lot of the rhetoric arguing that being a sugar baby isn’t the same as prostitution. Every single argument made me a little angry as they all revolved around total misconceptions of sex workers; i.e. we’re uneducated, have no goals or other options, and the one that bothered me the most: that, unlike sugar babies, we don’t have real affection for our clients. I have a number of long-term clients that I care very much for.

All of that aside, I was willing to see for myself if being a sugar baby felt any different. The reality was simply that it didn’t. Another supposed distinction that I had read was that sugar relationships aren’t transactional, but from the very start that wasn’t my experience. Each conversation with prospective sugar daddies took the same predictable course. After taking a little time to get to know each other the talk would always lead to a negotiation of what my “allowance” would be and how much time my suitor would get in return. Every single man I spoke with made sure to inquire if sex was part of the equation. If that’s not transactional then I literally don’t know the meaning of that word.

Alex Page from Dennis Hof's Moonlite Bunny Ranch
Alex Page from Dennis Hof’s Moonlite Bunny Ranch

While my experience in both worlds left me feeling like there was little distinction between the two, there is one fundamental area where they differ, and that is safety. The single most dangerous propaganda that sugar sites use to convince women that this isn’t prostitution is telling them that sugar daddies understand that sex isn’t a guarantee. I learned the hard way that this isn’t so. The man I eventually met with lived in a small town about thirty minutes away from me. After a few phone calls I decided that I would drive out and meet him for dinner. It was an odd experience. I love to laugh, and he was pretty humorless. His secretary was with him, and he explained this by stating that she would be who I would contact if I ever needed a dress for an event or reservations for travel. Halfway through dinner his pastor joined us, and I sat there uncomfortably while they discussed a charity run they were organizing. I left the dinner thinking he seemed like an eccentric but decent guy who I wasn’t sure I’d want to enter into a long-term arrangement with. I did agree to meet him once more the following week.

When it came time for our second date I tried to call and cancel because my car was in the shop. Against my better judgement, I agreed to let him pick me up with the caveat that I would not be staying with him. When he picked me up he handed me a reloadable AmEx card and said he’d put half of the weekly amount I expected onto it. I told him that it wasn’t necessary as we were still getting to know each other. He insisted and said to keep it just for having dinner with him. He ended up taking me to the same restaurant, and afterwards he said he wanted to stop by his house to check on his dogs. It made me nervous, but when he asked if I wanted to come in and see them I said that I did. I guess I let my guard down when I was greeted by two little teacup yorkies. After I sat on his couch and started playing with them, he came and sat next to me. I didn’t think anything of it until he started rubbing my shoulders.

I tensed up and told him that I should be getting home. When he didn’t stop I moved to get up, and that’s when he grabbed me roughly by the hair and pulled me towards him. I yelled for him to stop. He reminded me of the AmEx card and told me he was going to get what he paid for. In the end, he did. After he dragged me to his bedroom, he took what he wanted, and when it was all over he went to sleep. I spent the rest of the night on his couch cursing myself for being so stupid. In the end, I knew what happened wasn’t my fault, but it’s also fair to say that I had made some crucial mistakes. After an excruciating ride home with him the following morning, I immediately deleted my profile on the website, and blocked his number. The AmEx card didn’t make me feel any better about what had happened, but I did feel even worse when I found out that the balance on it was zero.

People who know me and what I went through were concerned when I decided to come back to the Bunny Ranch. They wondered how I could return to this line of work after what I had gone through. For me, the answer is simple. I love men, and I love sex. I’ve always been passionate about and enjoyed the services I provide, and one awful encounter hasn’t changed that. In fact, it’s only made me a stronger advocate for practicing sex work in a safe and legal environment. And that goes both ways. For every horror story of women seeking sugar, there are just as many for the men providing the sweets. If a sugar daddy is married, he has no way of knowing if he’s embarking on an arrangement that will lead him to bringing a sexually transmitted disease home to his wife. Speaking of wives, I had a conversation with a potential sugar daddy who was wary of meeting because his previous baby contacted his spouse when he ended her allowance. The worst story of all made national news when a Google executive was murdered by a sugar baby he met on a sugar dating website.

In telling my story, it’s not my intention to put down or to terrify the numerous women who, like me, gravitated to sugar dating in an attempt to make better lives for themselves. I know that there are many women who have had positive experiences as independent escorts, call girls, or as sugar babies — and that there are a lot of online resources to help connect potential clients and illegal prostitutes, like sugar dating websites. But, as I mentioned earlier, the bottom line is that “sugar dating” is a euphemism for “prostitution,” and prostitution is an unregulated and illegal industry throughout most of the United States. Unlike in a licensed Nevada brothel, there is no legislation ensuring for the safety and health of the young women and men who connect via sugar dating websites. I learned the hard way that no one had my back as a sugar baby, and that I was totally alone and vulnerable with out any industry standards or practices to support me.

It’s unfortunate that Nevada is currently the only State where sex workers can practice their profession in a safe, discreet, healthy, and regulated environment. If a Bunny Ranch was located just outside my Midwest home, I would have avoided one of the biggest mistakes of my life.

Alex Page

Alex Page

A sophisticated companion from the American Midwest offering an exquisite Girlfriend Experience to discerning men, women, and couples; Alex Page is a licensed courtesan currently available at Dennis Hof's Moonlite Bunny Ranch.

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How Becoming a Working Girl Improved My Body Image

I consider myself a person of high self esteem with a very positive body image. I love my curvaceous figure and my soft, supple skin. I am an athletic, healthy, and shapely young woman with a great attitude, a lust for life, and an eagerness to explore what the future has to offer. Also, I’m sexy as hell and I know how to work my voluptuous body to amply and utterly please my numerous lovers.

However, I didn’t always feel this way about myself and my body. As an average, middle class girl growing up in the Western United States, I was subjected to the usual trials and tribulations of an American teenager. Being a little on the curvy side, I quickly noticed that I looked very different from the vast majority of girls portrayed on television, online, and in fashion magazines. I remember being in my early teens and picking up an issue of Teen Vogue with a picture of Emma Watson on the cover and a headline that said something like “Tips on what to wear if you’re curvy, short, thin, etc.” I remember paging through the magazine and getting very depressed because I realized that I wanted to be the lithe, slender Emma Watson type that’s pretty enough for the cover of the magazine and not the full-figured model in the middle of the book showing off the merits of fit and flare dresses.

Amber Adams from Dennis Hof's Sagebrush Ranch near Reno, Nevada
Amber Adams from Dennis Hof’s Sagebrush Ranch near Reno, Nevada

Like many young women, I became obsessed with my appearance and I spent more time than I should’ve looking at myself in front of a mirror and obsessing over every bulge and valley of my body — to the point where my “flaws” became exaggerated in my mind, and began to affect the way I perceived myself. When you’re young and susceptible to the pressures of society, a negative body image can make you feel as if you’re less than worthy of certain things because you can’t see yourself in empowering roles that are almost always portrayed in the media by women that don’t look like you. I began to have thoughts like, “Well, I should settle for this unfulfilling relationship or this crappy part-time job — after all, what more should a girl like me expect out of life.” I could never be “the star,” because women that look like me are the supporting characters.

Of course, you would never know that I had these hangups if you met me in high school. I had a bubbly personality, I received decent grades, I had healthy friendships, I dated, and I had the usual amount of moderately enjoyable sex. But there was always a barrier, an invisible and imaginary limitation that I put on myself no matter what I did in life. Like too many teenaged women on the cusp of adulthood, these negative thoughts about my body eventually got situated into my subconscious and became a part of me that was always present but barely perceptible, limiting my potential in every aspect of my life. 

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After high school I moved to the Pacific Northwest and I had my first taste of independence, which meant that I was dead broke and had to find a job to pay the bills ASAP. Although being a barista in several of the the seemingly unlimited coffee shops Seattle has to offer was a lot of fun and a great way to make new friends, it wasn’t long before I realized that I needed to get a higher paying job if I wanted to stay on my feet and save some money.

Several of the women I met at the coffee shop were sex workers of one sort or another, and they suggested I get involved in adult entertainment. At first I thought that this was something I could never do. I mean, I could never be a sex symbol. That role was for the girls who were on the magazine’s cover, not the fit and flare dress girls.

Fortunately, the need for cash superseded my personal hangups and I got involved with exotic dancing and adult videos. As I experimented more and delved deeper into the world of adult entertainment, something began to happen. People began to treat me like I was something extraordinary. I began to make more and more money and I received sexual offers from men and women alike. I was desired — someone to be exalted and revered. Someone that people would pay to experience an evening with. People wanted me — wanted my body. Slowly but steadily, the barriers that were preventing me from seeing myself as a beautiful, amazing, and absolutely worthy person were beginning to crumble.

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By the time I decided to become a legal working girl at Dennis Hof’s Sagebrush Ranch in Nevada, so that I could offer intimacy and sensuality to my newfound suitors, the wall impeding me from loving myself was all but shattered. Through my work as a licensed courtesan, I learned that people lust after and crave a variety of body types — and I learned that what people see in magazines and what people long for and fantasize about when they close their eyes at night are often two very different things. I learned that we all have hangups of various sorts, and that it’s important to have someone in your life to be intimate with and to talk to about the things that prevent us from being the best people we could be and enjoying life to the fullest.

I’m having the time of my life (and the best sex of my life) and I never felt livelier or more desired. I feel like I’m on the cover of a magazine every day, and I can’t wait to make you feel that way too.

Amber Adams

Amber Adams

A curvy redheaded seductress, Amber Adams is the girl next door you just can't get enough of. This sexy Seattle native is currently entertaining clients at Dennis Hof's Love Ranch near Reno, Nevada.

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Nevada Brothel Prices

“How much do services cost at a legal Nevada brothel?” is one of the most common questions I’m asked regarding my occupation as a licensed working girl at Dennis Hof’s Love Ranch near Carson City, Nevada. Well, the short answer is: It’s negotiable.

A slightly longer answer is: It’s negotiable, but rest assured that Dennis Hof’s legal working girls service men, women, and couples from all walks of life — from high-powered CEO’s to blue collar workers — and everyone walks away from their experience with a big smile on their face and an eagerness to visit again, regardless of their budget.

Not satisfied with that answer? Let’s take a deeper look at the facts regarding Nevada brothel pricing, and see if I can help you understand why the answer to “How much?” is not as clear cut as most people might think.

To begin with, Nevada is the only state in the USA that allows legal prostitution in the form of safe, regulated bordellos. Generally speaking, it is unlawful for any person to physically engage in prostitution or solicitation (offering to pay for sex or asking for money in exchange for sexual services) anywhere other than inside a legal brothel. Because of this legal factor, we ladies discuss the details regarding our prices only in the privacy of the bordello.

When you visit a legal brothel, you will usually enter a welcoming parlor and be greeted by a friendly hostess who will call a lineup of all of the available ladies. These ladies will briefly introduce themselves one by one, and then you will be faced with the delightfully difficult task of selecting your courtesan of choice. Your lady will give you a brief tour of the establishment and then take you to her room where you will have a private discussion about how she will make all of your dreams come true and transform all of your most intimate fantasies into unforgettable realities. Because this conversation includes costs for the services discussed, we call it “the negotiation.”

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Roxanne Price from Dennis Hof’s Love Ranch North near Reno, NV

Everything is Negotiable, and Every Working Girl is Unique

There are no set prices at legal Nevada brothels because every working girl is an independent contractor who decides on how much she prefers to charge for a particular experience. The decision on how much we charge is entirely our own and may vary from customer to customer at our discretion, based on a variety of factors including, but not limited to:

Time

Obviously, if a client is looking for a 15-30 minute quickie while on his lunch break, he will likely be charged less than the gentleman who decides to take me on a four-day excursion to Las Vegas as his romantic companion during a convention. As the cliché goes, “Time is Money,” and that holds true when negotiating with a sex worker. Time is precious — and it’s even more valuable when it’s time spent in the most romantic of environments engaging in the most intimate of activities. All of the working girls at Dennis Hof’s collection of brothels sincerely appreciate the time our clients spend with us, and we take great care to ensure that moments spent with us are among the most cherished and memorable of our client’s lives.

Activities

The types of sexual and intimate activities that a client desires to engage in with a courtesan will usually impact the cost of services. The very popular “Girlfriend Experience,” in which a lady gives of herself emotionally as well as physically to a client, and both client and courtesan deeply confide in each other and share a highly intimate encounter, is often considered more valuable than, say, a stress-relieving and immensely satisfying — but not overly intimate — blow job.

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Value

Each individual working girl values the services she offers differently. An hour of “Half & Half” (fellatio and intercourse) with one woman may cost a little more, or dramatically less, than the same activity with another courtesan. Some women may be popular porn stars who charge a premium based on their celebrity. Also, certain activities, like sexual role play for example, may come naturally to some courtesans, so they may prefer to engage in it often and price the service lower than a woman who needs to rehearse and seriously prepare for a sex party in which she’s required to play a character other than herself. Every working girl is spectacularly unique, with individual interests and inclinations, which is what makes Nevada brothels so much fun — you never know who is going to light up your life, or what unexpected adventure your newfound sweetheart is going to take you on.

Attitude

OK, so here’s a tip for first-time legal brothel visitors that’s worth mentioning: If you visit us and you’re rude, belligerent, or insulting during the negotiation, you’re probably not going to get the best possible price for the services you desire. You should know that we are under no obligation to have an encounter with anyone. Just as a client is seeking the best possible companion to share a passionate rendezvous with, we working girls are seeking clients with whom we could truly connect — and start long-lasting romantic relationships with. So, be a gentleman when you visit a sex worker and you will be rewarded with not only a fair first-time price, but also with a lover that you can return to again and again, each encounter better than the last, and each investment paying off marvelously as your love life is enhanced tremendously.

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In short, you can see that there’s not a set number when it comes to someone’s sexual fantasy. In my experience every client is unique and every relationship is special. What we offer isn’t the equivalent of rotating the tires on your car, visiting your physician for a checkup, or steam-cleaning your carpets. We’re the secret lovers our clients confide in — the custodians of their deepest, most coveted desires. We provide unconditional affection, nonjudgmental companionship, and intense sex. The price for such life experiences is as varied and as particular as the men (and women) who crave them.

Roxanne Price

Roxanne Price

Lovely and curvaceous, Roxanne Price is an elite courtesan who prides herself on providing the “authentic girlfriend experience.” An empathetic woman with a genuine sensitivity to her client’s sexual needs, Roxanne provides transformative erotic experiences to men from all walks of life.

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Nevada Brothels — Three Common Questions

Nevada brothels are sometimes a bit of an enigma — there’s not a ton of information on them available! Many folks have questions. How does this work? How much does sex cost? etc. I’m Alice Little, a legal sex worker at Dennis Hof’s Sagebrush Ranch in Northern Nevada near Reno. As an experienced working girl, I’ve received countless emails with dozens of questions. I’ve gone through and selected the three most commonly asked questions, and answered them for you in the video below! While the video covers the basics, theres so much more to learn! Do feel free to email me personally with any questions you have. Who knows — they may be featured in my next video segment! 

Alice Little

Alice Little

Alice Little is a 4’8” red-headed cutie with a super-fit, all-natural body -- but don’t let her small stature deceive you. This friendly firebox is a pocket-sized sexual powerhouse with unparalleled lovemaking skills. A part-time girlfriend coveted by both men and women, Alice will make you feel right at home at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch.

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What Makes a Great Brothel Owner?

Welcome to prostitution politics of 2017 in the USA! Despite the fact that brothels have been legal in the majority of Nevada’s counties since 1971, prostitution is still criminalized in the rest of the United States. Academics and activists have argued for decades over a woman’s right to her own body; most notably the “feminist sex wars” of the late 1970s/late 1980s. While second-wave feminists referred to sex work as “paid rape,” sex workers and sex-positive feminists demanded that prostitution be respected as a labor. Fast forward 40 years to today — prostitution is legal or decriminalized in much of the developed world…but still not in the USA. Even here in Nevada, the land of gambling, casinos, and bordellos, assemblywomen Jill Tolles (R-Reno) attempted (and failed) to pass a bill (AB-260) to open a “John School” earlier this year for men arrested for purchasing sex illegally. These programs believe that by “educating” (shaming) clients about the (unsubstantiated) inherent violence against women in prostitution, men will magically lose the desire to pay for sex. These programs currently exist in over 50 cities in the US. Despite the displeasure of those who refuse to acknowledge sex workers (and prostitution researchers) such as myself, sex is being sold in legal bordellos across Nevada — and the handful of people who own these controversial sex palaces have their hands full.

So, what does it take to be a successful brothel owner in 2017? How does an owner of a stigmatized business navigate the politics around prostitution, if at all? How should an owner adapt to changes in technology & media, as well as changing mores about sexuality and gender?

Christana Parreira
Christana Parreira, sex worker, activist, and PhD student

1. A good brothel owner gets involved

When you own a Nevada brothel, whether you like it or not, you’re smack in the middle of a heated political firestorm. One simply cannot be a good brothel owner in 2017 and ignore the debates around legalization of sex work as well as sex worker rights. If your own highly stigmatized business of vice is filled with women who are often marginalized by society, it is your duty to advocate for those women and above all, to amplify their voices by making them visible. It is your duty to fight against legislative bills that hurt us. Historically, Nevada brothel owners adhered to a “keep your head down and don’t make waves” philosophy, and some still do. Dennis Hof, owner of 7 Nevada brothels, is no stranger to media, politics, or making waves. In addition to the expected media appearances meant to promote the business, Hof takes every opportunity to speak up about the problem of criminalization, whether he is speaking at Oxford University or attempting to talk sense into Nancy Grace. Hof is without question the loudest and most prominent voice in the US regarding legalization of prostitution. He immediately set up a meeting to discuss the problems with assemblywoman Tolles’ “John School” bill. However, Tolles cancelled without explanation and never reached out to Hof, despite his 25 years as a brothel owner. I also reached out to her, but never heard back. It was disheartening that Tolles would not even entertain speaking to me, given that I have been conducting academic research on the legal brothels for over 3 years on topics including worker safety and client motivations for purchasing sex. Even more disheartening was the silence from every other Nevada brothel owner.

This past weekend I attended the Nye County Republicans monthly meeting with Hof; he spoke out against the recent tax increase imposed on brothel licenses, as well as other unnecessary abuses that big government inflicts on Nye County. He also introduced me to the group and I spoke to several members afterwards about my thoughts and experiences in the brothels, but this behavior is nothing new. Hof has always made a point of bringing sex workers to media and political events so that we can also be seen, heard, and integrated into the community.

Dennis Hof, Owner of seven Nevada brothels
Dennis Hof, Owner of seven Nevada brothels

2. A good brothel owner is accessible and transparent

Dennis is easily found in one of his 7 open bordellos almost any night of the week. We can text or email him if we are having a problem, and he encourages clients to do the same. He even put his actual cell phone number on DennisHof.com! I watched him answer a call from a stranger while we were out to lunch during his political campaign and I listened as he answered her questions. Afterwards, I remarked “you seriously answer these calls and answer everyone’s questions?” He did. Please, someone grant me that kind of patience.

Not only is he accessible to clients and employees, Hof opens his doors to academics. When I first moved to Nevada to conduct my research on the brothels, I had quite a few doors slammed in my face. I can’t say that I was all that surprised; who wants a researcher poking around their place of business? Apparently Dennis! Not only has Hof given me access to interview sex workers in all of his brothels, he also let in a team of researchers including myself, headed by Dr. Andrew Spivak and Dr. Barb Brents from the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, to administer anonymous surveys to clients. Thanks to the level of access he has allowed us, we have collected data from over 50 working girls and more than 500 clients; data that is being presented at conferences worldwide and adding to the scholarship on prostitution.

Christina Parriera, Sex Worker, Activist, and PhD Candidate
Christina Parreira, licensed Nevada working girl

3. A good brothel owner is inclusive and adapts his business as social norms change over time

As Hof has said of his establishments, “This ain’t your daddy’s old cathouse anymore!” He bought the Moonlite Bunny Ranch in the early 90s, and immediately took down the “Men Only” sign, got rid of the fixed price menu, and empowered the women to set their own rates. He also gave the women the choice to say no to a client — quite a change from the “boys club” mentality that permeated the brothels before Hof came to town. While several Nevada brothels still run on a “lockdown” system in which the women are not permitted to leave the brothel for weeks at a time, Hof allows us to come and go — like human beings. Even in 2017, there are brothels that do not permit women to leave without a chaperone.

A good brothel owner must keep up with the times. According to my sample of 53 sex workers across 5 of Hof’s ranches, 35% are Women of Color; more racial/ethnic diversity than previous samples of Nevada brothels. The ages of the women in Hof’s bordellos range from 18 to 50+ and all shapes, sizes, and sexual/gender orientations, including trans women, BBWs, and fetish workers. Dennis is right — this is not your daddy’s old cathouse, and as one of the women working in his ranches, I am quite thankful for that.

Christina Parreira

Christina Parreira

Christina Parreira, M.A., is a PhD student in the Department of Sociology at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. In addition to being an instructor and researcher, she is a proud legal Harlot.

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